Well its just that I think I'm inlove with a lesbian and I'm a girl.... its so abnormal right? But she was cute and handsome that you can't say that she is a girl. This started last week when we had our intrams and I watch her playing basketball and she was really good especially in getting ball from the other team, and from that they shes always in my mind...is this love or just an atrraction? I always want to see her and everytime I saw her I feel very happy, what does it mean? Is this bad? And how can I resist this feeling? PLs help bec, I'm in the state of confusion.....
2006-09-28 18:24:21 · 11 answers · asked by grace 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have a female/female crush...this is completely normal...
This happened to me when I was younger and it confused me too, until I understood and came to grips with the fact that I was bisexual.
You admire this girl a lot, and you too are probably becoming aware of your bisexuality. Don't be too confused.
2006-09-28 18:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by tui 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be an infatuation. "WE" can not decide for you on what you should do. Is she a friend of yours? Are you positive that she is a lesbian? What you are feeling is not a bad thing. You MAY not be able to resist the feelings that you have when she is around. Some feelings were meant to be acted upon. Maybe you should muster up enough nerve to talk to her, get to know her. All relationships need to start somewhere and a friendship is a great way to begin. The only advice I would be content in giving is that you should talk to her, befriend her. A new friend couldn't hurt!!!
2006-09-28 18:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by littletease3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, questions like this I refuse to even get involved in, but in your case, I think I should. Quite honestly, if you find yourself saying it's abnormal, then you already have your answer; You are not a lesbian, do not let people try to push you, it will bother you for the rest of your life if they're wrong. Also, I think a person makes a choice to be this way. You didn't really talk about yourself in your paragraph so I'm just guessing, but I think you are very competitive, but possibly shy or you don't have too many friends. This girl you admire is the way you wish you could be, you're not in love with the girl, you're in love with a dream of being her. You want to see her to learn how she is so you can try to be like her; Honestly, I don't think this is a good thing either. You don't need to be like her, you need to take some time and figure out who you are and what is good about the things you are. Are you good at Math, or can you spell better than anyone else, do you have a way of helping people with their problems that always is right on. If Basketball is a dream of yours, it is better to be good in your own way rather than copy someone else. Sit down, find out what you're good at and what you need to work on and do something about it. Only you know the real answers, you shouldn't ask advice like this because we are all just speculating; and many people will try to make you think you're something you're not. You can resist this feeling by recognizing it for what it is: envy. When you sit down and figure these things out, you need to be honest, no point in lying to yourself; if you concentrate long enough, you will realize you knew these things all along but didn't want to accept it. Envy is not good because it can make you do things you normally wouldn't.
2006-09-28 18:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Aliayh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not abnormal to feel attraction for someone. I don't know if you're a lesbian or bi or straight from what you've told me...like how old are you? You don't have to resist the feelings..but if you're confused just slow down...nothing has to happen right away or ever if you don't want it to.....all that said I think you'd be far better off talking to a lesbian than to me, a gay man. take care
2006-09-28 18:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's a normal attraction. We can never resist how we feel about others. Try talking to this girl, see if it is real or not. If she's gay, she should know what you are going through.
On a side note: ATTENTION all homophobes, there is NOTHING WRONG with BEING GAY.
2006-09-29 02:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something you will have to figure out for yourself. it may just be a phase or your may be a lesbian . so what as long as you treat people good and enjoy life and dont hurt people have fun. ( i know that when i am confused about an issue i find it better to talk to a councillor or if your spirtual at all pray about it) good luck!!
2006-09-28 18:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by jason s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok im chris and i can help u u dont have to wery about this filling like ur gona die if u dont see her your brain is going throu veary meny changes and its probly telling u hay shes kool and and i whant to be like her or its confusd of the fact that shes a girl and looks like a boy there meny ways and ancerws but dont get the hebygabes of this fill ing its normal
2006-09-28 18:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by cwk16wv 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What worries me is why you want to enable this feeling.
Doesn't it makes you happy?, why would you want to forget that girl if she seems to provoke positive love feelings in you?
2006-09-28 19:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, your either bi or gay.
2006-09-28 19:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop by your local parish to get some help.
2006-09-28 18:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋