My friend has invited me for his wedding but not my wife. My wife does not want me to go as she says it is the last weekend before I start a new hectic job and she wants to spend some quality time with me before I start my new job.
I have been studying for an exam these days and do not spend as much time as she would like with her although I do make an effort to spend at least an hour or so a day, in addition to the whole weekend. I really want to go to my friends wedding which would be for about 5 hours on a saturday evening 2 days before my new job, but my wife is adamant that I dont go. I feel she should let me make my own decision about what I want to do. What do you guys think? Is it wrong for me to go alone under th circumstances?
2006-09-28 18:12:53 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your friend is extremely inconsiderate. Being a married couple your partner should ALWAYS be invited to a wedding as your guest. I would advise your friend that you are unable to attend as you don't like going places without your wife, however you do extend them your best wishes. Don't say it in a bad way because maybe they are under a budget. Make sure you do send a gift on behalf of yourself and your wife. I am sure as a newlywed your friend will understand that once a couple become married they should be considered as "one" for most situations.
2006-09-28 18:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is apart of you. When you two were married you became one so to speak. And if your wife is not invited don't go. Do you really want to chose your lovely wife over a friend? She is your blood now. And sense you two have not had quality time. I suggest you stay at home and renew your relationship. Set up something really nice for her. Do a candle light dinner at a nice restaurant. And just spend time with her. Before you start your new job. As in a reassurance. Saying, "Honey, I know I have not been there for you lately, and times will be hard. But when I am able to I will be the man you married". Simple as that. Be romantic about it. She maybe feeling a bit insecure about everything. She is your wife after all not a girlfriend. If she was a girlfriend it would be a different story!
2006-09-28 18:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First why was your wife not invited? it does not sound like something is right with that. most wedding invites are for the couple or that is the way I was raised. Second would you rather go to the wedding than spend time with your wife? I think you should think about it. I was married for twenty years and I did not go to weddings without my husband unless he was doing something. find a way to take her along and do something to gather to make it special. life is to short to spend it arguing or feeling guilty make your time together count. I wish we had.
2006-09-28 18:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by liza 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend can you bring your wife along. It's a wedding not a bachelor party or something. If not then just go for couple of hours then go back to your wife. You don't have to stay there for the whole 5 hours. Tell your friend you need to rush for something and you just drop by for awhile at the wedding. He'll understand.
2006-09-28 18:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by betty boo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's very rude for your friend to invite only you to his wedding. Are you really contemplating on going, if so, get comfy in the guess room. She's your wife, as a couple, it's a mutual decision. You should not go.
2006-09-28 23:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Aine14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wasn't she invited? That's my first question. In any event, your spouse should be your first relationship....if you go to an event like this without her when it was obvious that another person was including you and not her, you are in the wrong for going.
Truly, the new job doesn't enter into it. She's saying this, but what she's really thinking is that you don't appreciate her and she's not important to you; however, she won't verbalize this to you. She's going to let you decide, ultimately, and if you go, then you're not choosing her. Good luck with that fallout.
2006-09-28 18:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely shouldn't even consider going to your "friend's" wedding. Your friend is disrespecting your relationship and your wife by the snub. There's no question you should NOT GO nor should you send a gift. Cross this so called friend off of the Xmas card list ASAP.
2006-09-29 01:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, What kind of friend is this, and what's wrong with you that you're willing to accept an invitation that doesn't not include your wife. She has a right just to be mad at the fact that you would even think about attending something that excluded her,
2006-09-28 18:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she wasn't invited. Sometimes people just expect both spouses to go without actually inviting both of them. Ask your friend if you can bring your wife, he will probably say of course. Maybe he just gave a list of names to someone and they sent off the invitations without even knowing that you had a wife.
2006-09-28 18:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by taurus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is VERY wrong to go without your wife. It is VERY disrespectful for your friend to invite you to his wedding and not invite your spouse. My husband has college friends whom I had never met before, and yet when their wedding invites came they were addressed to us both. I think the fact that you would consider going without your wife doesn't speak highly of you. Instead of asking us the answer to a question like this, you should be asking your friend where is your wife's invite and yourself where is your respect for your wife!
2006-09-28 18:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋