I loved Spookey Ruben. I was a long time fan . They we started dating . He was coming around less and less. Finally I never heard from him again . 2 months go by and I start dating someone else who has been a good friend to me through all this . We just made it official . Im his girlfriend and guess who finally decides to call ? Spookey . I said " I thought you werent speaking to me " bcuz he never returned my calls . Im so torn . I thought I was over him , but I couldnt find the words to tell him I had moved on. What I need right now is some words of wisdom. I just cant seem to find reality right now .Im so confused . What is the right thing to do ? What is the best thing to do ? What is the smart thing ?
2006-09-28 17:52:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
The "right" thing to do is- stay with the guy who was with you through it all. The "best" thing to do is- not to give someone who blew you off once, a chance to do it again. The "smart" thing to do is- the ancient Greek aphorism "γνώθι σεαυτόν" or..."know thyself". You can't be content with someone else until you are happy with yourself. If you feel like you always need a man to be happy and you don't know what to do if you're alone... you should take time for yourself to get to "know yourself".
A girl I was crazy about had just come out of a bad relationship and all though she liked me and I treated her good, she realized she was just bouncing from one relationship to another. She decided to take one year to herself (not dating anyone) till she could feel complete on her own. After wards she was very balanced, centered, secure (whatever you want to call it). We became friends instead of dating again but I'm happy for her and she seems to make much better decisions now.
Maybe you don't either guy right now... ?
Good luck Demonica!
2006-09-28 23:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who disappears for 2 months and doesn't communicate with you does not deserve you. You are already in a relationship with someone who obviously cares about you. Don't blow it just because "Spookey" shows back up. Spookey is probably inbetween trysts right now and looking for a little booty call action. Move on and explore your new relationship which sounds healthier.
2006-09-29 00:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a guy doesn't talk to you for two months, it's not a very healthy relationship.
You've tried it with Spookey, and he left you.
You deserve better.
It's fine to be confused, but you've tried Spookey and it didn't work, so give something new a try.
The "right thing" is to stick by your new man, the "best thing" is to stick by your new man, and the "smart thing" is to stick by your new man.
Give it a try.
2006-09-29 01:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have someone new. You should move on with this person. Spookey doesn't deserve you. You are better than him. I don't understand the confusion; nobody should be treated the way he treated you. Keep moving forward with your life.
2006-09-29 01:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by kepjr100 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh boy. I'm afeered that you are going to go back to ol' Spookey no matter what we say. Please let the fella you are with down gently, he doesn't deserve to be hurt. When Spookey hurts you again come on back to Yahoo! and we will be here to listen. Good luck sweetie.
2006-09-29 00:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by el 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask Spookey WHY??? You're an intelligent person, use your own judgment. You'll do what's right for you. And we'll be here for you my Queen.
2006-09-30 01:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dorkboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If spookey did it one time he'll do it again just focus on what you have right here , right now.
2006-09-29 00:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, forget about Spookey man....if he has dropped you once, he thinka that he will be able to do it again should something else come up...
2006-09-29 05:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh.... old Spookey thinks he owns you now. You ain't allowed to Faun over anybody but him.
2006-09-29 00:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like spookey didnt want you when he could have you+now he sees your with somebody else he cant handle it.
we like to think we are everybodys true love,sometimes,when we find out we arent,it hurts our little male egos
if you get back with him it'll last a couple of months,tops.
then he will break your heart and build his ego back up.
trust me,i am ashamed to say i have been that man
2006-09-30 10:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by bigbadbald33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋