Here my situation I've got 2 friends a boy and a gril who are dating.I have none them both for two years and am better friends with the girl even though I've known the guy longer.The girl confided in me that she was breaking up with him because she lived another guy I know that their relationship has had a lot of problems.So my quesion is do I tell him she about to breakup with him?
2006-09-28 17:29:07 · 14 answers · asked by movin12006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you value these people as friends stay out of it and play dumb. You don't want to have to choose sides. You will lose one of them.
2006-09-28 17:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by SexxyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tuff one. My first reaction was to tell you to stay out of it. What if she changes her mind? You'd look like a fool. On the other hand... If your male friend finds out that you knew about what was about to happen and didn't tell him ... he will feel betrayed. This is a very difficult situation. I think I would talk with your female friend and let her know that you don't like knowing this information and if she is going to do it she needs to do it quickly. Otherwise, if I were you, I would let her know that I would be talking with the male friend because you care about his feelings as much as you do hers and let her know you would do the same if the roles were reversed. That way you more than likely will be able to stay out of it on his end and you won't have to carry around the heavy weight of knowing for very long. I hope all works out well for you and your friends. Good luck and God bless!
2006-09-29 00:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put youreslf in their situation. If you were going to break up with someone and confided that information with a friend, how you would feel if she told your soon to be ex? And if someone was going to break up with you, would you want to be told beforehand by somebody else? If that happened to me, I'd feel betrayed by the friend I told. It might mess up both relationships.
If I were you, I'd definitely just stay out of it.
Good luck!
2006-09-29 00:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Charly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is definately a time for MYOB (mind your own business) your friends with both, you are not part of their relationship. Your GF might have been telling you in hopes that you would tell the guy so she would not have to. YOU"RE not breaking up with him she is-and what if she changes her mind?
2006-09-29 00:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no. since they are both your friends...you must stay impartial. telling him gives him the idea that you will be on his side and if he is angry might put you against her. stay out of it because they will both need you. it's easier said than done but dont get too much in the middle of it. they are breaking up, theres no need for you to get really hurt over this too.
2006-09-29 00:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Effie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't get in the middle of this one. Let them handle it, if you get into it then you could lose one of them as a friend. And that's not worth it.
2006-09-29 00:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by rip_paxton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not tell him, he will tell you when it occurs. they after time get back together and she would ask him he would give you as the teller and then you would lose 2 friends
2006-09-29 00:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no. let her be the one to tell him. dont get in the middle of it becuase you might be losing one as a friend..
2006-09-29 00:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by sucker punch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay out of it and dont take sides if they are both your friends...you dont want the drama
2006-09-29 00:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it to yourself. .... sometimes keeping quiet is the best thing a friend can do.
2006-09-29 01:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by M H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋