there is 1 girl in my life that i ever loved and she dumped me recently am i screwed or is there a chance??

Question

she said i was being an asshole so i said i would try to change but now shr knows that better guys then me like her and i dont think i have a chance... im seeing her in three days an answer before then on how to get her back would be great but if i dont get her back then its suicide

Answer 1

I was looking over the other answers and it may be the first time that I’ve thought that all the answers to one question are good answers. Basically, they’re all saying the same thing, just in different ways.

I am going through something similar right now. I just recently lost the girl of my dreams. The one that I thought that I would spend the rest of my life with. You may have a chance, if it’s your first opportunity. I had several chances and blew them all. So, I deserve my fate. You, on the other hand, have a good chance to be forgiven and taken back.

How do you get her back? I think Scarlettboca probably had the best answer to that.

You mentioned suicide if you didn’t get her back. You’ve got to understand that I have lost everything due to losing the love of my life to another man. Even so, that is not, nor never will be, an option. I had a friend talk to me about my heartbreak the other night. He said something to me that two or three have alluded to here already. I’ll quote what cattailtop said, because it pretty much hits the nail on the head.

“Suicide is never an option when it comes to love, cause you can miss out on the things you learn from heartache and prove down the line to another some one that you are what she deserves and what she dreamed of. Don't give up. If it doesn't work out next time you will be ready and you will put your new whole heart into it.”

My friend told me the other night that I won’t be able to see this now, but the hurt and anguish, the pain and suffering that I’m going through right now, will make me a better man. Not just for another relationship, but also, it will make me a better person all together. It is hard for me to see that now. But, it makes very good sense.

If you go to her with humbleness of heart and sincerity and plead your case and she returns you to your place in her heart, then you have done well. And, you need to remember your promise to try and change your ways. If she doesn’t take you back, then accept your loss and learn from it. The hurt that we are going through will improve our lives in the long run. I have accepted my fate already, now I just have to deal with the pain. And contrary to what Steph said, I am not interested in any other woman right now. I don’t even desire to look at another woman! Some men may be able to do that, but I can’t right now. I’m not taking away anything from Steph’s advice. What she said is good advice if you’re the type of man that can do that. I am not.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First off if you know she is right about you being an asshole then for sure that is your first problem. do you know why she thinks you are an asshole? Do you know why you think these other guys are better than you? You need to figure these things out before you see her. And, just telling that you figured it out and that you have changed doesn't make a difference. You can tell her all of these things but if she doesn't believe you which is a possibility three days cant always solve things. Tell her you will and are working on things to make it right, it might take some time but she will see it. Prove it to her that you love and are willing to try and be what is needs. Suicide is never an option when it comes to love, cause you can miss out on the things you learn from heartache and prove down the line to another some one that you are what she deserves and what she dreamed of. Don't give up. If it doesn't work out next time you will be ready and you will put your new whole heart into it.

Answer 3

What is suicide? Look, you had your opportunity and you blew it. If you know you were being an asshole, what is REALLY going to change in three days that you couldn't bother to change before? Come hat in hand and be sincere and apologize when the day comes. Tell her what's in your heart and be sincere. But if even you say there are better men than you out there and you are telling her this, then you don't deserve her and stop wasting her time.

Grow up.

Answer 4

SHUT THE HELL UP! My god you dork there are so many people in this world and she is not the last chick you will be in love with as long as you stop talking so $ucking stupid! try to get her back and if not bang the next hottest chick you see and that will be your first step then start hanging back out with friends and in joy that time while you can be for you hook up again......man life is to grand don't be such a girl about this stuff you will fined some one just hang in there 2 weeks tops and then the pains goes more and more every day ......ok....?

Answer 5

Don't change now!! She liked you the way you were,
*** hole and all. Convince her that you love her and
that you have been slow to mature. Men almost always
do that. Love her and take her where ever she wants
to go! Express your love for her in anyway you can and
don't forget to be kind and considerate towards her
and her friends and yours. Nothing destroys a relation-
ship faster than jealosy and immaturity.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

THERE IS ALWAY A CHANCE, BUT IF YOU HAVE REALLY
CHANGED THEN SHE WILL SEE IT, AND IF SHE DOEST
THEN I SURE OTHERS GIRL WILL SEE THE NEW YOU
AND SEE AND APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER
BUT DONT LET ONE WOMEN STOP THE SHOW. THERE
TWO MANY OUT THERE FOR YOU TO GIVE UP. IF YOU
GONE THEN WHAT GOING TO HAPPEN TO THE PEOPLE
THAT LOVE YOU. , AND THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAM CAN
BE JUST AROUND THE CORNER. SO HANG IN THERE.
AND DONT GIVE UP HOPE. GOD BLESS YOU.

Answer 7

man you aint screwed you just need to keep your head up

Answer 8

Move on, everything will be fine!