I've been best friends with this guy since second grade. From about 5th grade to 11th. We went out for a while in 11th grade but I was his first girlfriend and he was so nervous about messing it up that he messed it up (in hind sight I should have been more understanding). By senior year I decided to tell him I still liked him. He told me to move on. So I did, I started dating other guys, a year later (when I was in a serious relationship with another boy) he told me he still liked me, at the time I was un willing (and way to confused) to break up with the boy I was with. Since then I have broken up gith guy number 2, and guy number 1 has expressed intrest in another girl, but I still love him. What do I do?
(I know this is a very long and cofussing story (sorry) but thats why I need some advice)
2006-09-28 17:10:08 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honesty is the best policy. Corny old saying, but it works.
2006-09-28 17:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry but it appears the spark just isn't there. It is unlikely that he will ever return the sentiments you have for him. He likes you as a friend and that's it. You should take his advice and move on to someone who will love you as much as you can love them. You are a wonderful person and there is someone out there just for you, but you have to let go of the one who got away. Otherwise, you'll always be hurting over what never could have been, when you could be celebrating what you can have now.
I know your heart is set, but if he doesn't feel the same for you, then there is no chance. Heal yourself the best you can, then go find that special someone that IS waiting for you.
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2006-09-29 06:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that consistently, the time isn't right, and you both dig each other, he especially digs you, when you are not easy to get.
I would suggest moving away from this dude. 11th graders don't have to show patience - they're young. But at this point of the game, making yourself available or putting your life on hold is not doing you any good. Don't do him a favor and stop being his in case of emergency break glass girl. He still hasn't grown up or is not meant for you. It's OK, nothing personal. Move on.
2006-09-28 17:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange to meet, prefreably where there will no alcohol involved, best to be sober, tell him how you feel, if he says he doesnt feel the same way, you need to break contact with him, for your own sake.
It does seem that he wants you when there is a threat you are going to be taken away from him, so putting some distance between you both may be the answer, perhaps he needs to no what life will be like without having you around.
2006-09-28 17:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may not be what you want to hear... but i was in a similar situation and i waited it out and am ESTATIC that i did. since i stayed just friends i met my current boyfriend who i love more than anything.... also i know that it is different in every situation.. so if you KNOW that you are truly in love with him then tell him... it sounds like he may have the same feelings. if you both are not in relationships it sounds like a good idea to try. if you are only attracted to each other when the other is in a relationship it could possibly be a jealousy type thing... especially if you were spending a lot of time with your boyfriend and not your friend. REMEMBER: sometimes friendship feelings are misconstrued for love... this became apparent to me when i met my boyfriend. i am really sorry for the wishy-washy answer... i probably confused you more... GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-09-28 17:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I supply my friends hugs each and every of the time, and not basically my friends, yet human beings I in simple terms met too. and in specific circumstances i will in simple terms tell them out of nowhere that i admire them. i think of what you're doing is vast. there is not sufficient love in this international and that i like to appreciate that folk surely care approximately me yet when I tell human beings i like to be extra spontaneous approximately it so when I do say it they understand i for my area mean it.
2016-10-15 08:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth let him know you love him and always did i have the feeling he is in love with you slow down see what his and the g/f are doing then let him know most of the time friends hook up as long the both of know each other i think you have it made well all i can tell you is GO FOR IT BABY good luck to the both of you
2006-09-28 17:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the path to true love is a rocky one, if it's meant to be we find a way. Best friends should be able to talk to each other about anything, I have best friends for 40 years now and tell them all, you need to sit him down and sock it to him, at least you will know how he feels about you, he may also be in love with you but he may just really value your friendship, be prepared for this, true friendship is hard to find.
2006-09-28 17:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is what i did;
walk up to him like you normaly would and stare into his eyes for a fews seconds and wrap your arms around him and just tell him how you feel tell him what you told us. he's your bestfriend so he should understand. and if you need to break the ice the kiss him lightly on the lips or cheek
it worked for me but it dosent mean its gonna work for you but it never hurt 2 try
2006-09-28 17:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by Candice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this has any life left, next time you go out - he invites or you do - kiss him on the cheek when he picks you up. Make sure your arm rests against his - this is the "I'm available" clue. Don't put your hand on his - that is "You don't have to try" clueless.
2006-09-28 17:15:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋