I am stuck in Japan and cant speak Japanese so its difficult to get a job. I left my wife's parents farm because they dont like me and wouldnt let me be free, only work like a slave. I got a job through the Mormon Church but left cos I couldnt pretend to believe their religion and they told me not to drink coffee etc. Now I'm jobless, I dont see my wife and child(we are only friends and dont have a relationship she's only interested in being a musician) I only came here because she couldnt stay in England. To make things worse I've fallen IN LOVE with a girl but her parents wont let her see me because I dont have a job and because I got drunk and told her dad I love her but I'm married. My wife is glad I have a girlfriend because she cant be with me. Now her parents who are my guarantee in Japan want to send me out of the country and I'll have to go to Holland. I want to be with my girlfriend but I also want to see my wife and child. What should I do instead of getting drunk?
2006-09-28 16:43:43 · 25 answers · asked by Shironeko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you plan on being assimilated into a foreign society you need to learn their customs and social morays first. when in rome do as the romans do. in the eyes of oriental people you have lost face and have no honor. once you quit a job or get fired from a job it is difficult to get another employer to hire you. you have also demonstrated your weakness for alcohol and your disrespect for your girlfriends family by suggesting their daughter should be like a common street woman. dude 3 strikes and your out. get back to a protestant society where people can tolerate your faults.
2006-09-28 17:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back home and get yourself sorted out, then worry about a girlfriend. Getting drunk is not going to help matters at all. It only makes matters worse, cause when you get down off of the high from the alcohol, your problems are still there. After you have sorted yourself out, then maybe you can return to Japan to see your daughter and hook up with the other women.
2006-09-28 18:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding yourself in thinking your wife is happy for you. You are a disgrace to your family and hers. Clean up your act. Apologize and pray for the best. You should not have gotten yourself in this mess. Try learning Japanese and respect. I don't see why she could not stay in England. Seems selfish to me especially since you changed your whole life for her by moving to Japan. The girlfriend DOES MAKE IT MUCH WORSE! Join AA and get your life straight!
2006-09-28 16:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get sober,things are about to get a lot worse for you before they get better by the sounds of things, with a clear head you might find a way to work things out. I would not be entering into another relationship yet, you have a divorce to deal with, a child to maintain, a drink problem and a new country to get used to!! don't you think it's enough to be going on with? did you go to Japan with your eyes shut? stop pretending and get on with real life, depend on yourself, not others.
2006-09-28 17:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Place an ad in the paper and start teaching english on the side or jobs through www.culturalembrace.com, or just go on www.craigslist.org to find jobs but your best bet is to find a job teaching english and I have seen a lot of ad asking for people to go to Japan to do that you are already there that is half the battle, you will be in my prayers, Anything besides drinking is being proactive!!!
2006-09-28 17:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a kid. Why don't you take hold of your own life? Move somewhere where you make the decisions about you. Find another girl in Holland. I used to know one from there. She was pretty open about sex. mmmm.
2006-09-28 18:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn Japanese, get a job and go back to your family.
2006-09-28 16:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT YOU NEED IS TO STOP DRINKING THAT THE PROBLEM, YOU NEED TO GET A JOB SO THAT YOU CAN
SUPPORT YOUR FAMILY, AS FOR YOUR WIFE, IF YOU AND
SHE WANT OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE THEN DO SO,BUT
YOU NEED TO GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER YOU HAVE CHILDREN, SO GET TOGETHER. AND FOR THE GIRLFRIEND
NEED TO CLOSE ONE ACCOUNT BEFORE OPEN A NEW
ONE DONT YOU THINK.
2006-09-28 17:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is to find a job and work to be with your family.
2006-10-01 00:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and take the other advices
2006-09-28 17:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sons of Light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋