im am a young teen, first time father, my girlfriend sprung this pregnancy on me and i got freaked out... i have thought it through and i dont no when it happened, i ALWAYS use a condom, she showed me the HPT and its deffinately a positive, but the growing consern is i dont think its mine, but she doesnt sleep around, niether to i, we are both honest people, i need held and advice (any additional info will be givin on request)
2006-09-28 16:36:59 · 15 answers · asked by daniel s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
after each sexual intercourse i always check the comdom for holes or any breakeages, & there have been none yet
2006-09-28 16:47:52 · update #1
i was goin to stay with her if the bub isnt mine, i was going to love it like it was my own, but its just having the thoght there. knowing it isnt mine... how can i over come that?
2006-09-28 16:53:24 · update #2
just relax and breathe, you don't no yet if it is or it isn't, you say you've checked for holes every time, well what about the top??, you could have came in her without knowing, just wait and sit and talk with her, she will understand... good luck
2006-09-28 17:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condom is not 100% effective on preventing pregnancy. It still can happen.
Anyway, if she doesn't sleep around, and well, the baby could be yours. Then take the responsibility for it. You might wanna have it checked with blood test, to make sure she is realy pregnant. I know a positive HPT is enough most of the time, but just in case...
Rather than panicking and stuffs, I think you have to figure out what to do with the pregnancy. If you really doubt the baby is yours, talk to her about it. Look back on when you both had sex the last time, and research the possibility the baby can be yours.
Other thing to think about, are you going to leave her if the baby is not yours? What are you going to do? Start with those things and after all the confusion on whose baby it is, you can start thinking about other stuffs.
Keep in mind that pregnancy - especially the first weeks with all the morning sickness and everything else - is a hard time for her. Her body is changing and she is emotionally vunerable too.
2006-09-28 23:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by meetha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, First off go to the doc's and get a blood test to make sure it is a for sure possitive, then talk to the gurls parents to make sure she is an honest person, and that she hasn't had sexual contact, or any contact at all with another guy. Condoms aren't alwayz 100% effective! Sumtimes the juices can leak out, or u could have a microscopic hole in it and not realize it. Then last but not least don't tell her u dont think the baby isn't urs, just wait til the baby comes out and see if he/she has any of ur features, then request for a paternity test! she doesn't need the stress, or worries that u might leave her, b/c that can cause a miscarriage!...Good Luck To You Both!!
2006-09-28 23:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Condoms are not fool proof and HPT are not always accurate. If you really care about her, stick by her. It really doesn't matter if you are the biological father or not. If there is a chance you must step up to the plate.
If you are old enough for sex than you should be old enough for the responsibilities.
Make sure that your suspicions are based on facts and not hearsay. If you accuse someone of something they didn't do and you are proven wrong, what kind of person do you think you are going to be portrayed as in this child's life. You will be portrayed as a loser and a dead beat dad. These lables will follow you every day of the rest of your life (If not by others then by yourself)
Be a man. Wait for the results. Get the facts. Follow your heart. The child you created is not asking to be born but should still be given respect as a living thing.
When the child is born, get the paternity tests if you wish. You may find that fatherhood agrees with you and gives you drive to always improve yourself for the sake of the childs future. This will make you the real man this child will need.
2006-09-28 23:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by k g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sad to say, but a lot of people don't use comdoms property, even though they think they do! like rubbing your penis against her vagina without the condom on yet can cause pregnancy easily. I have heard of a lot things similar to that. so you have to be careful and back condoms up with some other form of BC. If your girlfriend doesn't sleep around the baby is probably yours, and to make sure you can always get a test. But if you love her now is not the time to leave her. Just try and be supportive and get the baby tested later, if you want. I know you're young but remember, when one door closes...another one opens. You'll be fine.
2006-09-29 02:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by kateyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a test to see if the baby is really yours. Better that then always wondering. Any ways, your parents will probably bring that issue up for you. Treat her good and try not to upset your girlfriend with this, being so young, stress can be very harmful to the baby and her. Try to stay calm. There are a lot of opptions out here now days. You could get a job and both of you could finish could by either home schooling or online. You could even go to college online so your education wont have to be put off. Plus there are scholorships out there for young parents. So I recomment you just take a deep breath and prepair to be a part of something amazing. You guys are young but you'll make it. It's nice to know that there are still young guys out there that are willing to take responsibility for their actions. we need more guys like you.
2006-09-29 00:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by dumbblond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that she doesn't sleep around, you used a condom, they are not 100%. Chances are the baby is yours. I understand you having doubts, but if you trust her, you need to be supportive of her. She is already pregnant at a young age, her body is going to go through things you can't even begin to understand and she has to tell her parents that their baby girl is pregnant, the last thing she needs is for you to accuse her of being dishonest. If the condom thing is the only thing making you have doubts, wait till the baby comes and see how you feel then. At that time you can have a paternity test to show if you are the father or not.
2006-09-28 23:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to her parents to see if she's honest, but the only way to truly tell is a paternity test. You need to know for sure it's yours and if it is, be a responsible dad because having a child even in a loving marriage is very difficult. Don't feel like it's a bad thing if it's yours because children are wonderful. It's hard, but their wonderful. Get really close to your parents if you can, you'll need some family support, because after the initial shock, they'll be grandparents too. Good luck.
2006-09-28 23:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Fartbuster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would advise having her take a blood test, urine test are not always accurate. Second you can take a prenatal paternity test as early as 11 weeks into the pregnancy and then go from there. Both suggestions require patience. Remember to never jump to conclusions especially dealing with serious issues such as bringing another baby into this world. Good luck! :)
2006-09-29 00:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Hennessy Girl! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need a blood test. The pregnancy test could be a false positive. The best thing to do is to go to Planned Parenthood to find out if it's really true. As for the fact that you don't think it's yours, you probably need to wait until the baby is born to do a paternity test.
2006-09-28 23:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by squeekmnstr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋