I have a ques for the ladies.. my husband complains of odor during sex.. but I have no infec according to dr..

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I have never had any complaints from former partners, I keep myslef quite clean, I shower 2wice a day and I use feminine wash for the lady area. I wipe correctly and do not have any type of abnormal discharge. It affects our sex life as he complains it turns him off... what else can I do. I am afraid my dr finds me to be a hypocondriact for always voicing my complaints as all of the tests are neg. He has had a vasectomy so there is no contact with sperm and vaginal fluids creating a smell. It is only noticeable to him, I do not smell anything.. and he does not complain about it all the time.. sometimes he says it is stronger than others.. but its there to some degree. Please do not give me silly immature comments, I am looking for educated answers as this is affecting my marriage. thank you.. oh yes we are monogomous also. Please help!

Oh also I am clean shaven, he says it comes form the inside, but when I stick a finger inside I do not smell anything on it, not before sex, during sex, or after.. its so frustrating. He has been to the dr with me, but feels the dr didnt know what they were talking about as they were a military physician.. Oral sex is out of the question.. he atributes it to the smell.. but he wants it for himself (of course) I think that he is just extremely sensitive to smell.. he doesnt have any issue with the skin outside of the vaginal area... just the canal itself.. soooo frustrating! we are a late 20's early 30's couple and I dont see it lasting if we cant get past this HUGE issue.. I have done all I can think to do

Answer 1

You know what I would do. I would go back to the doctor this time taking my hubby with me. Tell this to your doctor and see what he has to say about it. They have heard it all before. Let your hubby go back with you. If you don't have an infection which is the cause of odor then I don't know what would be going on unless he has a sinus infection or is trying to get out of sex or oral sex maybe. Not being rude. If it was me going thur this that is what I would do. Take him along to the doctor with me.
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Answer 2

I've read before that certain foods can cause unpleasant odors and tastes on men and women. Or maybe the smell is coming from him? I wouldn't use too many feminine washes or douches though because they say those aren't actually good for you. You could also try showering together before having sex as a little foreplay and that way if the smell is possibly coming from being sweaty, etc (from either of you) that will no longer be a problem. Good luck!

Answer 3

I once had a doctor tell me that sometimes the "chemicals" in two different peoples "fluids" don't always agree with each other. Maybe that's why there has never been a "smell" when you have had other partners. Where you found your selves emotionally compatible...you two just aren't "chemically compatible". I swear I didn't make this up...I wish I could remember it just the way the doctor told me so that I could be more help. Go to a different doctor just for this cause and take him with you both for the exam and the results. Ask about the chemical incompatibility thing.

Answer 4

Feminine washes disrupt the natural pH in the vagina -- it leads to more problems later on. Understand I'm making no assumptions about your general lifestyle, but am just offering ideas, in case you need them. The common causes for a bad smell, when all other factors appear to be normal, seem due to a few things, which I've tried to remember below. May have missed a few, so I apologize. Lay off the washes, and try something else instead:

1. Get at least 30 minutes, 3x a week, of exercise (walking, jogging, swimming, vigorous yardwork, dance, aerobics, etc.). Will also increase sex drive, confidence, and general health. But good, clean sweat is always a better smell than the sweat which comes from sitting around.

2. Drink lots of water, and lay off soda totally. Try eating at least 5 servings of fruits and vegetables a day, and go for a few servings of strawberries every week.

3. Try limiting yourself to one or two fried foods per month, and eat as few prepackaged meals as possible. Go for fresh foods, tantalizing flavors and spices (and cook with your man, if possible! Or at least have the spices simmering when he comes in). Avoid foods high in fats and salts and additives, if you can. If necessary, talk to a sympathetic nutritionist about good food choices, menu planning, etc. Eating well doesn't have to take loads of time or money.

4. Sometimes, dairy products disturb the taste/smell of both men and women. I kid not. Perfectly healthy men sometimes shoot stuff that looks like spoiled mayonnaise, if they have too much dairy (and it don't taste so great). Consider getting more calcium from yoghurt than from cheese and milk.

5. Get a shampoo which has tea tree oil in it (like Desert Sage). Dilute a bit with water, before washing down there. Helps prevent yeast infections down there, too. Also good for summer skin breakouts, itchy scalp, fungus from hiking, etc. (I kid not -- I got a skin fungus when I laid my shirt down on the ground while taking a break, and it cleared up within two weeks of using tea tree oil on my back and tummy).

Answer 5

Dont worry - i have the solution.
Follow my steps and you will be ok (I am a gyno by profession).
1. Shave your and his pubic hair completely (Sweat can cause odor).
2. Pe*e before you start any sexual activity and then wash your area clean. Also tell him to do the same.
3. Drink 2 glasses of fresh fruit juice 1 hr before going to bed with him.
4. Do not wash inside ur v*agina. But clean the surrounding area (including the a*nus) thoroughly. Same for him.
5. Just before you start, spray some perfume on your vagina, near his shoulders(will mask all other smell) and near his scro*tum.

There is a possibility that he is complaining of excessive odor from your v*agina to get out of performing oral sex for you (he may find it "dirty"). Tell him clearly that oral sex is not important to you and you want to only please him. Perform oral sex for him regularly.

Answer 6

A woman (and man) needs to wash just before sex. Hair holds odors. If he still complains then it might just be your natural scent (males and females have) which is usually not noticeable to others. If its the latter, there is noway to change it. You can only cover it with scented sprays.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Have you tried applying perfumed body cream to the area? that can help. maybe even spraying a strong perfume around the area....also if you guys are into oral sex I suggest applying strong-smelling edible creams and oils etc...

Answer 9

Use a scented douche and if he still complains refuse to have sex with him. He is trying to cause problems.

Answer 10

he must be very sensative and i think its your natural pheremones. look up pheremone on the net.