She is getting married in about 2 weeks, the reason for the rush is him going to Iraq. I dont think this is right do you???
2006-09-28 16:34:19 · 24 answers · asked by Manda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's wrong. She is way too young to have that responsiblity put on her. If her bf truely loves her he wouldn't want her to go through all that. If it's meant to be then why can't they wait for him to come back home?
2006-09-28 16:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 19 and me and my bf have been mutually for 4 years and we at the instant are not even making plans a marriage good now. we've stated it and can prefer to sometime yet we neither persons are financially waiting for something like that. Wait till you get out of faculty. Get an entire time activity, a automobile, and could pay your own expenses and stuff first. i'm finally on my very own and that i've got found out lots that i think of will help me as quickly as I do get married, because of the fact i'm lots greater responsible now. yet besides, yet another undertaking, the way my BF and that i see it extremely is, If we've been meant to be mutually, what's the frenzy? For us there is none, because of the fact the time isn't good. i prefer to have a great wedding ceremony and a great existence thereafter, and that i be attentive to that if we jumped into it now it would not be great because of the fact we'd be broke, and under pressure, and who's acquainted with what else. and those are the kinds of issues which could bring about separation and divorce and that i truthfully do not prefer that. Please bear in thoughts which you're nonetheless so youthful and the longer you wait the greater arranged you would be. you may not could ask a team of persons on line if the time is nice besides. that's once you are going to be attentive to that it is not. whilst the time is nice you would be attentive to. And no person will could aid you're making up your thoughts. wish this helps. stable luck.
2016-10-01 11:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who got married at 17, and the marriage didn't last. That said, I don't think your sister should get married so soon. She's got enough on her plate with school and all that. I almost got married for that same reason, but I'm glad I didn't. She might regret it later in life, but I understand why she wants to.
Since her fiance' is going away, she should wait until he comes back. She'll be out of school and established with a job and a place to live, and then they can get married. Good luck.
2006-09-28 16:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they love each other than it is ok since he is going to be leaving for Iraq. I don't think it matters how old you are, sometimes you just know when it's right. They want to be able to be married before he goes to war probably because they are afraid that if they don't marry now, they may not get the chance to. I think your sister is being very unselfish by committing herself to this man when he needs her most. It may not be something that would be right for you, but it may be right for her. Support her, she loves this man and may never see him again once he leaves for Iraq.
2006-09-28 16:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! Getting married this young is crazy but even more, she has no idea how hard it is to be a military wife! The highest divorce rates come from the military, during her newlywed stage she will be hoping to hear from him once a week. Well, it sucks but I doubt that you can do anything to talk her out of it. Crazy doesn't have an age limit. Good luck, everyone in this situation will need it!
2006-09-28 16:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONSIDERING THAT 50% OF MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE YES I THINK IT'S A LITTLE TOO YOUNG IF HE LOVES HER AND SHE LOVES HIM WHAT'S THE RUSH......AND LONG DISTANT MARRIAGES REALLY HAVE PROBLEMS......... IF HE'S GOING TO IRAQ GOOD CHANCE SHE WON'T SEE HIM FOR AT LEAST 9 MONTHS OR MORE PEOPLE WHO GET DEPLOYED USUALLY HAVE YEAR ASSIGNMENTS....THAT'S REALLY SCARY SEEING THAT A LOT OF SOLDIERS DON'T COME BACK NOT TRYING TO SCARE YOU BUT IT'S THE TRUTH... BUT IF SHE'S GOT HER MIND MADE UP SHE WILL DO IT REGARDLESS TO WHAT ANYONE THINKS I HOPE AND PRAY THAT HE WILL RETURN SAFELY AND THAT ALL WORKS OUT WELL BUT I STILL THINK 17 IS A BIT YOUNG...
2006-09-28 17:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by diamond girl36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't suggest anyone getting married at this age. I married when I was 17. I have been married for 12 years and have two great kids, but this age is way to early to decide who your life partner should be.
2006-09-28 16:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I was 17 when I married and we are still together with 2 childern and I am working on my second degree, so don't judge her! I have friends who did the same thing and they are still together and did I mention we are still together after 6 years. I am also a Mililtary wife and I see things from his point of view also.
Support her.
2006-09-28 16:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Shaney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting married at 17 is too young, couldn't she wait a few years? I mean at 17, how does she know that she met "the one" who she wants to spend the rest of her life with? She's barely out of high school, what do your parents think about this?
2006-09-28 16:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't right. She is a minor and too young to make that decison just cause he is leaving. He probably won't be faithful and what will she be holding onto? If they think they love each other, they should when he returns also. She needs to live and be with friends, not tied down with one man at her age. I wish you and her the best.
2006-09-28 16:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think its right cause they are really too young they will probably end up getting divorced by the time they are 23 but you should still go to their wedding no matter how you feel shes your sister.
2006-09-28 16:37:44 · answer #11 · answered by TinkerbellSB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋