well we were partying and we stayed up late and one thing lead to another and we did the nasty and now she is probably preg. b/c i for sure didnt use a condom not by choice but we were drunk and just forgot and now i guess im paying for my mistake and her family hates us and we have no idea what to do?
2006-09-28 16:25:08 · 36 answers · asked by Edwin 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
and we were both VIRGINS so no need for checking for STD's
2006-09-28 16:39:29 · update #1
You know, I'd usually stay out of this one. But you sound like a caring individual and a good friend.
Hopefully you like kids too. Just keep being her friend, and then be your son/daughters Father at the same time.. You'll probably make for 'great' parents given your situation. No strings attached, just Mom and Dad and all the attention on the little one. I know it sounds silly, but I watched a movie recently about this exact same situation, and everything worked out fine.
Be strong and Good Luck with everything...
Oh, and.....maybe you should stop partying, and help your friend to do the same....Least whilst the little one's growing inside her...
2006-09-28 16:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're gay doesn't mean that you can't be a father. Also, you both need to get checked for any std's (ecspecially if she is pregnant...and what if she's gone without using a condom before?). She needs to have a pregnancy test done and you two need to discuss what options you are willing to take. Whatever you do, and if she is pregnant, I hope you two make wonderful parents for that baby. This could put a horrible strain on your relationship, but this baby is now your first priority. Best wishes (and use protection next time, whether it's a girl or guy!).
2006-09-28 16:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Suse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until she takes a pregnancy test...I would not start planning anything around the issue. How about worrying about the OTHER risks for no condom?
Come on, that "we were drunk" thing? Over done! If you know you don't make the best choices when you're drunk- drink less, slip one on while it's still floppy- whatever you have to do hun...but, definitely protect yourself. I'm not saying that to lecture- I'm just saying you've got to "think hard, before you THINK HARD"! Know what I mean?
I don't know how old you two are- but, have her take a pregnancy test first...then, feel free to shoot me an email with the results of that- and If it's a yes...I'll try and give you all the advice I can.
2006-09-28 16:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is indeed pregnant and it is yours, then take care of your child. Your child would not care if your gay or not. He/she
will see you for you and not what you want to be. For get about the haters. Congratulation!! By the way I hope your old enough
to support this child. If not get a part time job until your old enough
for a full time. Just because you had sex with your freind doesn't
mean you have to stay with her. Just stay in your kid's life. My
cusin was a male whore. When he was younger teenage years.
But as he got older somewhere down the line he got married
had a son and a daoughter. Told his wife he wanted a devorce
because he is gay, so she give him a devorse. She Still his
friend and the kids except him for who he his. So don't
worry about it. Her parents doesn't have to like you and you don't have to like them for what ever reason. Just be strong.
And Good Luck!! SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember if your freind is a freind like she says she is then
she'll back you up. Just keep talking to her like your best freind.
Be there for each other.
2006-09-28 16:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well like I said, even if you are gay you still need to take care of the baby. You dont have to be together. You can live seperate places or you can just get an apartment together and take care of it. If she knows your gay then she know's there's not a chance of you two being together but you can still take care of the baby. There's help out there even if both of your parents wont help out. Make sure you start saving up. Everyone makes mistakes, but regardless you still have to take responsibility for your mistakes. Hope that everything works out well for you!
2006-09-28 16:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is not an easy situation for anyone (straight or gay) to be in.
Ask yourself what you want to do. Doing what you feel is right is is better than doing what you feel you have to, because else you end up with regrets and frustration and ultimately it makes for an unhappy environment for the child.. The most important thing to do is to see that the child is happy and gets loads of love,whatever you decide. Good luck!
2006-09-28 16:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by waygook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.... If she is be a man and take care of them that does not mean that you have to be together. dont worry about her family.
the baby will love u no matter what your its daddy
Its only a sugestion but mabe you should try being with this chick even though you two were drunk there had to be some attraction in order to have sexual contact especialy since you came in her good luck and contact me if you need to talk
p.s im not against gay ppl my sister is a lesbian and i am bysexual
2006-09-28 16:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by elmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're gay? If she is pregnant you need to step up and be a man and take care of your child. This baby belongs to you and your friend. If her family loves her at all they'll be accepting, just remember that it's up to you and your friend if grandma and grandpa are involved. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't raise a child.
2006-09-28 16:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by puzzletnt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all....whatever you do don't abort it (please). Second of all, just because your gay doesn't mean you cannot be a father and face your responsibilities. Don't worry about the family, they'll get over it (everyone does). You just have to accept the fact that you got your friend pregnant and now do your best to support her and be the best father you can be. Best of luck buddy!
2006-09-28 17:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cali03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man this is kinda like a Life Time movie you no if you sleept with her you might not really b gay cause if you ws drunk im sure you could have found a guy not a girl take a long hard look in the mirrow
2006-09-28 16:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋