2006-09-28 16:19:32 · 17 answers · asked by tdkmaximus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i believe its because a child is made while couples are in love (usually) and after a divorce happens that child that was made because of the love of a couple, now becomes a constant reminder of the failure of the marriage..............
2006-09-28 16:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately its the kids that suffer in a divorce. The parents always say I'm not going to drag my child in the middle of this. But, we always do. A divorce is hardly ever amicable. That's just in Hollywood where they have a lot of practice. In the real world, if you hurt you want your ex to hurt to. Whats the best way to make that happen is to say "look what your mother did" or "look at your father what a bum". This is picked up by the child. They are pulled apart. If they go with one parent then the other parent is the louse. Sadly a child will take sides. Most of the time that will be on the side of the one that becomes the primary caregiver. Even if the child is grown and can choose who they live with, there will still be animosity toward the one that they don't live with. You have to be patient and if you have built a good relationship with the child before the divorce you can call up those memories. Remember when we "Fill in the blank". It takes time but they will eventually come around. But, you can't push them into it and don't try to buy their affection. That only works while they are with you. Hope this helps good luck with your child.
2006-09-28 16:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,Speaking as someone who has been divorce and someone who was the child.It is u feel bad for the child like even though u did what u had to u feel like u failed them some how and the u have to try to hide alot of things u are feeling so u can see the child and not cause a emotional mess with eh ex.And it does make u think of all the dreams u had when u had the child and the life u had planned that didn't work.Its just alot of emotions involved but its best for u and the child to deal head on with it cause the last thing the child needs is to feel alone or unwanted or how they caused the breakup or that u don't love them anymore its better they see u cry than not to see u at all.
2006-09-28 16:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A divorce isn't a comfortable and elementary procedure and having little ones makes it even extra complicated and confusing. i'm sorry in case you had misconceptions about divorces being speedy, elementary or less expensive even with the indisputable fact that the large D is not one of the aforementioned traits! To make it the "least confusing" it might want to could be completely uncontested while you and the ex bypass into it already agreeing on resources branch, promoting or no longer promoting the marital homestead, visitation and different words...it quite is amazingly uncommon. good luck.
2016-12-06 08:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because youve been around that child forever! An everytime you look at the kid it reminds you of ur ex partner! cause its a part of him or her! You had something to do with that child now u just kind-of got shoved out after everything youve done!
2006-09-28 16:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by girlpressure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AFTER A DIVORCE KIDS ARE ALWAYS IN THE MIDDLE IF YOU ARE A GOOD PARENT MAKE TIME TO SEE YOUR CHILD TO AVOID NOT SEEING YOUR CHILD
2006-09-28 16:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be scare is you child and you are in half the real parents. Give me a break, bring some gift, help ,advice to your child. You are not chicken.
2006-09-28 16:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because one or both of you aren't putting what is best for the child first. Because it is best for the child to be with both parents as much as possible and receive their love, care, and protection.
2006-10-01 17:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must be guilt. You've bursted the bubble on their belief that family always sticks together. If parents can leave each other then kids suspect parents can leave the children too. You must do everything in your power to provide a stable and loving environment for your children. You owe it to them.
2006-09-28 16:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT!!!!! If there is nothing wrong with you (restraining order or the like)....Go to the Attorney or the Court who granted the divorce...GET the permission from them....
If you mean on a personal level...Well, for me, I feel guilty because I feel I have let them down by NOT being there for whatever reason.....
2006-09-28 16:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by bart4play 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋