i was drunk and so was she and we got carried away and we now thinks she is preg.
2006-09-28 16:12:03 · 23 answers · asked by Edwin 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I agree with smokey. Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. IF, by the grace of GOD she is NOT pregnant, let this be a lesson and don't ever take stupid chances again. Carry a condom in your wallet. And USE IT.
2006-09-28 16:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by blondee 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Go get a pregnancy test.... If the pregnancy is confirmed you and the girl will have several choices to make consult both sets of parents... They may be angry at first but will calm down when they realize the two of you are ready to address the issue head on in an adult fashion...
Talk to the girl and come up with a plan of what you want to do before going to the parents... Adoption, keep the baby, get married, etc. talk it all out and write it down have a clear plan of action this is a place your actions and hers got you into so the two of you need to take the responsibility formulating the plan not the parents... They are there to help not to fix...
You are both going to do alot of growing up very quickly no matter which result the test shows...
Alcohol is the anti-contraceptive 1,000's upon 1,000 of babys are born to people of all ages each year because people lack judgement when intoxicated... However now that it has happened to you it's time to grow up and take responsibility for your actions.. The quicker you get to planning and talking the better a baby only takes 9 months to complete... That's not alot of time so the longer you wait the shorter the time you have to get it all planned...
Hopefully this experience will teac you a lesson no matter the outcome... Sex and alcohol don't mix as alcohol makes you pretty stupid... Wear a condom heck wear two incase of breakage...
While a baby may not have been in you immediate plans.... plans have a way of changing when you least expect it ... part of being an adult about this is accepting that plans changed drastically and you and she together are responsible for the action that changed the plans... Make new plans from here, it's not the end of the world it's just a bump in the road...
Did I mention from now on wear a condom or two so this is less likely to occur......
2006-09-28 23:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get her a pregnancy test. IF it comes back positive then take care of your child like you know you should. Or talk about your options. She might not want to have a baby at this point in her life. I AM NOT SAYING abortions are good or that she should get one. I am saying that the two of you should talk things through and decide on the best course of action. This is BOTH of your lives that will change forever IF she is pregnant.
Don't stress out until you know for a fact that she is expecting. Freaking out and stressing out won't change the results of the pregnancy test. Depending on where you are located there area few clinics that do free pregnancy test or very cheap ones. If you don't want to go to a clinic then get an over the counter test.
2006-09-28 23:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by krazysexyeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her being drunk is no excuse . Hopefully you'll do the gentlemanly thing and go with her to find out and then make sure you take care of her and the child for the next 21 plus years. That'll teach you to use a condem next time . Let's hope neither of you has any diseases anyone has to worry about.
2006-09-28 23:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out if you guys are preg. Then decide what's best for both of you. You should remember no matter how stressed out you both get , you need to be supportive. Good luck
2006-09-28 23:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by thothibis7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take responsability for your actions. There are many options available to you. You need to choose the right one for the both of you. there is abortion(i personally am against it), adoption, keeping the baby and getting married, keeping the baby and not getting married, but still supporting it. Very first thing to do is find out for sure. Then discuss it with her, and find out what her feelings are. then make the decision based on what you both think the BEST solution would be.
2006-09-28 23:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by susan w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Own up to it!!! My husband got into the same situation 7 years ago. We call his son a blessing in disguise. Go to the courts and have everything written on paper- child support, visitation, insurance, school holidays, day care, and everything else. Make your new baby number one in your life. Be the best father you can be becuase you have a huge impact on the happiness of this babies life.
2006-09-28 23:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure it's yours. Second, make sure you don't want to give it up for adoption. If you answeres yes to these, then it's time to be a man. You both made a mistake and that's ok. But, if she has to live with that mistake, love it, clothe it, feed it, buy diapers, food, day care, school, college, and every thing else, then you do too. You both made the mistake, you both make it right.
2006-09-28 23:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you feel about the girl. Unfortunately she has the option for what she's going to do about kid, but hopefully you can work together on it. Just make sure that you talk with her to find out what will be best, but don't be afraid to solicit opinions from others...
Good Luck.
2006-09-28 23:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by pilotselect 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a real man and take care of your child! There are so many kids who are fatherless out there, so dont be like the rest of them ,do ur part too.... Good Luck To You And Your Gurl!
2006-09-28 23:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋