There isn't any where within in hours of where I live, plus as I said none of my freinds know that I am interested in girls, and I am pretty sure that they would not go with me. I'm not to sure they would even be my freind. wrong yes, but we live in a small town and that is all they know. Its not like they go around saying rude things about gay/lesb. but they don't agree with it. any way back to the club thing. If I ended up driving there, It would be hard for me to go in by my self. i wouldn't know where to start, or what to say. I could use some more advice. please
2006-09-28 16:02:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well I'm gay and I'll tell you how I did it...I was really shy but I just went in and stood to one side and pretended that I belonged there...pretty soon people came up and talked to me and everything was fine...nobody will care if you're nervous..they'll probably find it charming...but it's a hard step to take...but remember that you can always walk out that door as fast as you went in...if you don't feel comfortable there.
2006-09-28 16:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't throw yourself in the deep end like that.
Check to see if your nearest town has a support group for gays - they may have meetings or organised outings that will be a lot less intimidating.
That way, you get to know some people in a non-threatening environment, they are in the same position as you and you will automatically have new friends you can go gay-bar hopping with.
2006-09-28 23:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need some support! The Internet is an incredible resource! Find anyone and anything that is near by that you can make a human connection to. Read everything you can about coming out. Contact PFLAG to give you advice on talking to your friends and family. You are going to need all the help you can get. Many of us live in small places! We live in a city of 13,000. Can you call that a city??? haha...
Find your sisters.. they are out there... good luck!
2006-09-29 01:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to start somewhere! I went to the gay bar by myself when I first came out to, it really was fun once I did it. Just be confident in yourself, dress hot, talk to people, dont just stand there looking like a geek. Everyone at the gay bar are usually excepting, its not like a straight bar. Not usually a meat market where all the girls hate each other. So just be brave and do it.
2006-09-28 23:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may seem a little akward going alone,but I believe if you'll just go have one drink at least at the bar, someone during that time frame will approach you.You see gay/bi-sexual people tend to be a little more open,out going,a bit more friendly than straight people.Relax. They will come to you. If not get up and try another bar. Also try dating sites. They will have your address and personal info that you provide to help find you a date of your same background closest to you. Good luck to you, and don't give up or let get you down.You'll find someone just give it time. Sincerely, Alysia
2006-09-28 23:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by h.h.i.c. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try yahoo groups, outfriend.com, yahoo 360', myspace.com, volunteer at an AIDS organization, check with your HS or local college/university to see if they have a student organization.
2006-09-29 00:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate sundae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋