Maybe it is everyday stress that is getting to me or my Parents getting old and ill or my not finding love or not having children or not having very many friends or being too shy or having bad self image...Whatever the case, I need encouragement to keep going on right now.....I know a lot of you are really good people and I just thought I would ask for your help tonight. Thanks.
2006-09-28 15:41:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i feel the same way like you, sometimes i wish i could just commit suicide but thats a coward thing to do, so i continue living, i am always afraid that maybe my parents will die or that my grandparents will leave me soon, i just wish i could go first, i know you know that feeling, we have borderline personality disorder and people like us whether we like it or not need a therapist, i am also having troubles with relationships , im too scared and i feel to weird to be inside a relationship i cannot commit, but i do love and like somebody my problem is that i am too shy or that i dont feel worthy at all to be loved thats why i cant share myself, maybe if we could tell ourselves that it is ok to get hurt and love others we can be more open to the world, i am too shy to admit or continue any of what i believe, i have friends but not close friends, i feel as if i am wearing a mask and i am forever trying to become happy and smiling around them eventhough inside i feel so empty, maybe we could join clubs, learn sports, find activities where in we can interact with people, if we could be more confident and join activities and projects, we could have a broader perspective
and also try having a journal, write down your thoughts, feelings,emotions,it really really helps you get it out of your system, once in a while cry, cry alone and let it all out, dont keep it inside, and pray, i dont know if you believe in God or if there is a God but if you can try talking to someone who would just listen to you and not judge you, it would be God.
2006-09-28 15:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as your parents getting old, you have to realize that everyone has a time. It's best to just think about it positively, because death is a good thing. Just think, they'll be in God's kingdom in not too long. You should be happy for them. Of course you will miss them but you will always have the memories and you will see them again.
I know how the friend thing can go. Certain days are just better than others. You just have to think that there are good and bad days. Yesterday, for example, was a terrible day. The people I was around were pushy and acting like jerks and just mean. Today though, people were nice. It's all about the atmosphere and surroundings. It helps to know that there is always someone who likes you and looks up to you. You may not know who that person is but he/she is out there.
I'm not sure how old you are but you will find love someday. I am 14 and did't have my first girlfriend until a month before turning 14 back in February. This was always how I wanted it to be. I wanted to save myself for the right girl and I feel like she is the one for me.
As far as being depressed goes, it helps to have a hobby or something to work at. If you have a passion for something proceed to do something involving that. Everyone has credentials, that's how God made us. This means that you are good at something and there are things you believe in. Sometimes you may not realize what it is even if it's right under your nose. You'll know when you're doing something and you just feel good about yourself or know that what you're doing seems right.
Most importantly, pay no attention to other people. Usually people who say they don't feel good about themselves are different, usually in a good way. The problem is that they might often face hostility and disrespect because of being different. I know what it's like. The best thing to do is really believe in yourself and know that in the end, the only thing that matters is how good of a person you are. Someone that you know somewhat well today that redicules you will probably forget about you completely in ten years. Why not be the better person and do what makes you happy. Doing this will not only lead to a better self-image, but it will also show that nobody's opinion matters but your own, and people will learn to respect that. Even if you are different, being yourself and respecting yourself are some of the key ways of getting other people to respect you too.
Last but not least, you HAVE to have faith in God. Considering He created us and loves you more than any human is capable of loving, wouldn't it be a good idea to seek his guidance. When you have complete faith in the Lord and trust what he tells you through your heart, your life will be so much better.
OK, I hope that helps. Sorry it's so long, I was trying to cover everything. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and remember what I said about being yourself and having faith. Best of luck to you. I know things will get better!
2006-09-28 22:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Nemo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well love, all I can say is don't give up. Unfortunately, there are times when life sucks, we all have problems! Love will come and with that kids, go out and do stuff now because once you get those kids you want, life gets better but more hectic! Everyone has a hard time now and again (trust me I am there right now!... I picked up my divorce papers yesterday... 22 and in the middle of a divorce... yeah, me!... ). Any way stick it out, the old cliche tends to work, "you find love when you least expect it", so stop trying so hard! Good luck!!!!!
2006-09-28 22:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... Congratulations!!! By sharing how u feel is the first step for u to feeling better ;)
Remember that we humans r not perfect. We will make mistakes n usually have limitations. That's y we r not God rite ;)
Tackle ur problems one by one at a time. Sometimes u can ask suggestions or help from family or frens tat u can confide in..
If u wan more variation of solutions, can tell us (Yahoo Answer) ur problem. Hope we can try lessen ur burden. I know some of my questions were answered nicely he he... At least i got some ideas by reading all the answers..
However, the most important who can change ur life is YOU!
Like the little Horbit in Lord of the Rings, u must be brave n strong to face all the bigger n dangerous challenges ahead of U. (Sori im a fan of Lord of the Rings he he).
Hope u feel a little encouraged.
2006-09-28 23:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by fify 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set some short term goals. This is what has always helped me. Plan a vacation, even if its just a weekend getaway. Start running. Sign up for a race of some sort and get ready for it.
Things do eventually get better. Just hang in there. Get some medical help too. Depression is a manageable disease.
Good luck. :)
BTW: I love this saying: "Walk towards the sunshine, and the shadows will fall behind you"
2006-09-28 23:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Monkeygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, I have suffered from depression a few times over the last 50 years. You are too good to be this depressed. You need to find something to do with your life. Do you go to church if so, join one of their singles groups for socializing. Volunteer at a local homeless shelter and help serve meals to the needy. Go sign up at the Red Cross and volunteer your time. That is just a few ideas to get you going.
You never know you might find the person of your dreams volunteering too.
2006-09-28 22:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by couchP56 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One step at a time, honey. Tomorrow do something that you think will help your self image. Make someone smile, whether it is charity or help moving or help someone on this web set. There are a lot of people just like you on these things and it really makes you feel better about yourself to try and help someone. What goes around, comes around and its better to have good stuff coming around. If you still keep getting lemmons at least you can take comfort in knowing that you didnt bring it on yourself.
2006-09-28 22:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by leannonme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know - you must change your life and seating with computer is one of the killers of life time/total waist and addiction/.
Go to Gym start work out - get in shape and see other people.
Start go for shopping to just be around people.
On days off just take off anywhere to not see what you see every day , Start even alone traveling to new places to relax , see something new, relax get fresh air, freedom of mine.
If you get outside you have the chance to find somebody like you depressed and lonely waiting for someone like you and just for you. Happiness can be just behind the corner of any street or place but you have to move.
Life is hard but you can make it better.
2006-09-28 22:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, you must PUSH your way through this situation. Pray Until Something Happens. You must believe in yourself and know that you are someone special. Encourage yourself daily. Look into the mirror and tell yourself something positve. I do this every day and have noticed how my morale has changed about life, my situations and more.Keep the faith and trust GOD. If you ever need someone to encourage you please don't hesitate to send me an email or instant message at sxyscorpion@yahoo.com. Be blessed and take care.
J
2006-09-28 22:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ladijaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit whining, sit up straight, and get ahold of yourself. The only problem with your image is that you complain too much. You're really a good guy. Besides, you're not the only one who's depressed.
So get out there and seize the day!
Yeah, I know that doesn't really help much. I'm pretty depressed too. Sorry, buddy.
2006-09-28 22:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Codes G 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋