should i dump her?
2006-09-28 15:28:36 · 25 answers · asked by mark s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no i say that all the time out of anger : / don't leave her. i'm sure she just get's down about stuff. i'm sure she dosent really mean it. tc
2006-09-28 15:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! she is human and probably just has doubts sometimes. Maybe you should talk to her about WHY she thinks sometimes (not everyday) that you two shouldn't have married. Maybe your not making her happy or did something or maybe it's not that at all. If you dump her over that she deserves someone better than you.
2006-09-28 22:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by tina*21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you aren't giving your wife something that she needs. Talk to her about this. Find out what she is missing from you and why she feels this way. Maybe she is just scared that you are thinking the same thing and is trying to read your reaction? The only way to find out is to be asking your wife what she is thinking and why she says this. Don't get mad at her for her answer (if you don't like it). Either accept it and change it or accept it and move on.
2006-09-28 22:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by sxysparkler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe---- but before you do, you and she should have a talk -- one with a referee or counselor so each of you can air your problems and get them resolved. Two or three sessions would be well worth your time, $$$$ and efforts. In a counselling session, you avoid the pitfalls of an argument, and get out there what is bothering each of you. By yourself, it all just becomes accusatory, and you both go away angry, maybe never to again talk, and it all dissolves before you knew what happened. Try a few sessions first....
2006-09-28 22:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and think of the situations you were in when she said these things, because i know as a female I sometimes say things when I am angry that I didn't mean just to effect the person. And sit down and talk to her and tell her that you feel the need to leave because you think she wants you too.
2006-09-28 22:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by jodeegurl79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us are not good communicators and we say what we are felling with the wrong words.Trying to put words to our feelings are tough.I would take her out for dinner set the mood by perhaps taking a walk or a sit in the park and ask her to talk about these feelings.Then SHUT UP!.Don't try to answer it! Us guys try to "fix it" Listen.
2006-09-28 22:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by archer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Emotions sometime run high. We say things we really don't mean. You can't divorce over something like this. I am sure most people at some point or another in their marriage wonder if they should have ever gotton married.
2006-09-28 22:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, u counted? u should dump her, girls have many mood swings and she was probably just goin through one of her phases. trust me, it happens mayb once or twice every couple years. it comes and goes, don't think too much into it- unless it keeps happening over and over again for a few weeks or months at a time, but i wouldn't worry bout years
2006-09-28 22:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura. It will be the best money you ever spent.
Good luck!
2006-09-28 22:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was in love with you & happy in the beginning of the relationship and/or marriage, just try showing her the love and attention that you did back then... then if she still says it, go in a different direction.
2006-09-28 22:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because lots of people have those thoughts. I do sometimes.
Her mistake is that she spoke of them. Her problem is that she thinks it's a good idea to tell her mate everything that's on her mind. Express yourself completely and everything will be okay. Wrong.
2006-09-28 23:59:24 · answer #11 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋