my parents are in the middle of a divorce,and i been noticing that i havent been sleeping very well,and ive been felling very depressed and angry off and on and dont think i am bi-polar ,so.....i dont know what to do,i dont want to take meds for it ...
2006-09-28 15:27:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well being depressed and bipolar are two different things...that's not to say you didn't know that...but going thru a divorce for children and parents is depressing...we never feel it will happen...there are 10 things in life that are very most to cause stressfulness which in turn can also be some signs of depression...and going thru a divorce whether you are the child or the parent you are going to have a hard time dealing with certain aspects of it...Some of the 10 are..(don't know if I can remember them all) but, going thru a divorce is one, moving is one, a death in the family or friend is one, a loss of a job is one...ok anyhow..that's 4 out of 10 sorry I can't recall the other right off the top of my head...but dealing with a divorce is not an easy thing to emotionally deal with in most cases...I hope you feel better....talking to one or both of your parents or a counselor or friend...letting them know how this is really affecting you might give you some relief of the stress...I do wish you the best...if all else fails talk to your doctor about your feelings and sleeplessness...Good Luck =)
~PEACE~
2006-09-28 15:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter that is going through the process for the past two years. I have kept open communications by calling twice a day and the same is true with her mother. Remember that you are loved by each of your parents and that the divorce is not your fault. You should be able to talk openly with each stating your concerns and if you don't feel that ask if you can talk to someone else that you feel safe with. Good luck
2006-09-29 11:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents did that too, and you must remember that it is their problem not yours. You did nothing to cause this, you can do nothing to fix it. No, you are unlikely to be bi-polar, but you have every reason to be somewhat depressed. Being angry is normal...... Kids, all kids, figured that they did something wrong -- you didn't. But you do need your sleep. Ask your mom to get you some over the counter Benedryl. It's pretty harmless, and makes you a bit drownsy so you can sleep. After all, you have a life to live, good grades to get, and fun to be had, and all that is a bit tuff if you can't sleep. Helpful? Need more? write me.
2006-09-28 22:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it girly. that is a total normal way to be feeling! You are just human! It's better to show your anger now then pretend everything is fine like I did, and it presents itself in different ways like future relationships etc.. In our society we are over diagnosed.. don't assume you have bi polar if you have mood swings. You're young and that happens! You're healthy to be expressing emotions - I worry more about people who are just numb. I am going through a rough patch right now too, just accept the feelings and let them pass. Journal... that helps a lot.. Surrond yourself with people you trust and try getting some exercise because that increases endorphins which make you happy.
2006-09-28 22:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Browneyedgirl1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to read "A Time To Dance" by Karen Kingsbury.
It can be a big help to them during this time.
You're under great emotional stress at this time, and it can do strange things to your body. I was eight years old when my parents divorced, so I know something of what you are going through.
Keep busy, and take your mind off of this nightmare by reaching out to others to help them in any way you can.
2006-10-02 00:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go and talk to someone. A pastor, a counselor that will listen....a caring grandparent....the parent you can open up to. Don't let this phester. Your parents didn't get divorced over you but their divorce will effect you. You need as much proffesional help (not drugs) as they need legal help. I am sure they both still love you and it is killing them that they have to split cause that means they can't be w/ you as much as they want.
2006-09-28 22:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girly,
ummm divorce effects every one, your not above it and much like every thing else that effects us this pain will subside,
please dont forget this feeling, remeber it when you make the decision to marry, remeber who you chose is the person you will more then likely have children with and if you choose the wrong person then your children will have to go through the same thing. if you keep a diary you need to write to your future self the feelings your having to remind yourself how painfull things are .
2006-09-28 22:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your parents, but what you are feeling is very normal. go get some books on "divorce" and they will help you understand all your feelings. if you are having more serious problems or feelings--speak to someone good luck
2006-09-28 22:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by sagie29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a very hard adjustment to make for everyone...Everything that you're experiencing is normal..Find someone to confide in...
2006-09-28 22:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the parent you feel closer to and tell him/her how you are feeling. They should take this in to consideration and reassure you that everything will be fine, and that you will be ok.
2006-09-28 22:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by jodeegurl79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋