He always locks his cell phone when he gets home. We almost had a divorce over him being sneaky. How can I make him listen to me w/o yelling @ him cuz that's all I do. He said, 'He's going to stand his ground"! I found **** on him before with his cell phone. I figured he would unlock now but he's not. Help.......
2006-09-28 15:17:53 · 12 answers · asked by Tyff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you say something that he does not want to hear they get selective hearing and tune us out. Sound like to me he is being sneaky for a reason. He is hiding something and maybe you should give him a dose of his own mediciene. zleave he do not tell him where you are going stay gone for awhile. When you come home and he ask you where you have been tell him no where. See what happens then. If he pushing you then explain that you wanted him to feel what you feel when he is keeping something from you. I would leave for a couple of days if it wee me. I will tell you this i have found that it is better to fight fire with fire. If he does not care then leave him for good. Keeping secrets is a bad thing and can ruin a relationship. He locks his cell phone for a reason. Ask him why? Ask him can you look? if he says no then turn around and walk away. They do not want to hear you when you tell them something they do not want to hear. Actions in this case speak louder than words.
2006-09-28 15:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you have a real relationship and communicaiton problem, bigger than what anyone here can help you with. You need some professional help and I suspect, you sound like you are heading for more problems. I see the rocks ahead due to a husband who apparently wants his OWN life but still wants to be married.
2006-09-28 15:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's got something to hide...maybe you should try and get access to his cell phone records...keep your cool and find some evidence and then yell...
2006-09-28 15:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl friend! Loosen up. You got to act as if his game that he is playing don't exist. Stop checking that dam cell phone . Haven't you heard that if you look for @#*^ you will find it. Once he see that you are not playing his game, he will start to wonder what's up with you. Don't let anyone play with your MIND!!!! Holler
2006-09-28 15:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have trust issues with him. He feels a need to hide stuff from you. So I think you need to talk about that first. Obviously he has done something in the past to make you suspicious of him (or you're paranoid).
2006-09-28 15:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by The B Man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are other men out there who would cherish the ground you walk on! Dump this loser before it's too late.
2006-09-29 05:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by STONE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me ..he might have a mistress ..
and to get him to listen to you .. i was told men can only comprehend 2 mins at a time ..or you can just text him or email or write to him ..
if that don't work .. i would move on ..there are better men out there ..that would listen to you
2006-09-28 15:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by purpleskunk77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a jealousy issue or does he not want you to cause him grave financial harm ?If its aa jealousy issue find out if its justified ? If its you causing him financial harm pay more bills.
2006-09-28 15:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need to talk, and you need to stay calm and rational, he will close up if you start to get angry. just tell him exactly how you feel and ask him how he feels and make sure you listen to him as well
2006-09-28 15:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Els M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duct tape his *** down and then he will listen
2006-09-28 15:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋