I was used by a ninja...I'm not even kidding. There's this girl in my drama class who is obsessed with being a ninja and I always sort of had a crush on her. I finally got the courage to ask her out on Tuesday. We went out for coffee and ended up having sex. On Thursday, when we had class together....nothing. No acknowledgement that it ever happened. I tried to talk to her, but she just completely blew me off. She had claimed to be completely lesbian, but she had only been with one other girl. She has a history of being a slut though, sleeping only with men. I'm just so sick of this bullshit. I'm an adult now, I'm completely over with the games and experimentation. Am I wrong for being mad? I mean, I would understand if she was experimenting with her sexuality (though I would be upset still), but she knew exactly what I was looking for. I made it crystal clear I was looking for a relationship.
2006-09-28 15:16:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It was probably stupid to have sex the first date, I admit, so am I completely over reacting?
2006-09-28 15:16:36 · update #1
The sex was just in the moment and it was all her. She was leading. I actually tried to slowed down, but she wasn't having it.
2006-09-28 15:21:34 · update #2
Fact is stranger than fiction, Douglas.
2006-09-28 15:27:04 · update #3
I didn't know her history until after everything happened. Should have mentioned that earlier. And I sorta thought the ninja thing was cute...a bit mental, but cute.
2006-09-28 15:36:11 · update #4
Can i go have coffee with you lol... Kidding in all seriousness you do have a right to be angry (i am guessing you are feeling a bit used and abused) but you did know of her past... Maybe you liked her to much and she wasn't ready for a relationship. I think this girl pretty much used you unfortunately, I think just cut your loses and move on she sounds to immature and wild for a serious relationship... Hope you cool down and cheer up! anyway who wants to date a Ninja lol ; )
2006-09-28 15:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she just is trying to keep it on the down low. Or if this is only her 2nd experiance maybe she is just being shy now. Do you normally talk to her away from drama class,besides the other night? Have you called her? Shoot- I would call her and break the tension ya know. If she really keeps acting stuck up,then too bad for her- it's her loss. If she's acting like this now, how do u think she would be in a relationship? But i would say YES, you have a reason to be pissed off-she acts like it never happend.....Good Luck and don't stress too much on her.
2006-09-28 22:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
live and learn. having sex on the first date is not the road to a longterm relationship. She does sound a little strange I admit. But I am sincerely curious though, did you have sex on the first date because you wanted to in the moment, or because you thought it was signifying the beginning of a relationship?
2006-09-28 22:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. If you want a relationship and she doesn't it wasn't going to work anyway. On the other hand, yes, you did have a right to be just a tad bit upset but not long enough to sweat :)!
2006-09-28 23:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Trina J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i came in here, expecting this to be comlete bs as a question like the "what if dumbass", but sorry after i saw the beginning, i stayed out of morbid guy "pigness"
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AND much more interesting, elphaba.-like the other guy said- she's enthralled with being a ninja- she's a child, emotionally. dont sweat it.
2006-09-28 22:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by douglas w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a fake ninja sword- the plastic kind you get at a toy store, give kneel down and offer it up to her, then tell her to shove it up her pretty little c unt.
2006-09-29 12:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you probably weren't wearing the right t-shirt...and ya you have a right to be mad and disappointed....I don't know why people behave like that...but then, honestly, if you knew her history of being a **** then you should've known...but that's hindsight....it sounds like you're better off without her...you can do better than her. you don't need to be treated like that (ignored-basically)...I think you deserve better.
2006-09-28 23:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, are you kidding? Oh, you're not.
She's obviously immature. She is obsessed with being a ninja, for goodness' sakes. So, don't sweat it. It's all her problem, not yours.
2006-09-28 22:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like what gay men go through all the time.
2006-09-28 22:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋