Husband of 11 years is suddenly accusing me of having an affair.
2006-09-28 15:08:55 · 21 answers · asked by WENDY P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that 9 times out of 10 it is true. Of course there are some exceptions. My dad used to say "it's the guilty that accuse".
2006-09-28 15:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Terri R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. There can be other reasons for this type of behavior. Is he acting completely normal and rational about everything else? Paranoia is one possibility. Mental delusions can begin at any time, and if they are spotted early, can be helped by skilled therapists. So take a careful look at his reactions to other situations in his life. Are they all as usual?
Defensive behavior is, of course, a possibility too, but there would likely be signs indicating that he was the one having an affair. Again, you're going to have to pay close attention to what he is doing -- and what he is not doing -- to decide where the problem lies.
If neither of these is the case, he needs to talk to a marriage counsellor.
Hope this works out for you. A behavioral change like this after 11 years isn't a good sign!
2006-09-28 22:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that saying. But in that situation, he's either genuinely worried/insecure, or maybe he's feeling like having an affair. Since it's like they say, when you point the finger at someone you're pointing three back at yourself.
It's like maybe he's feeling like he needs an affair and so he transfers that feeling to you? Even if he doesn't realize it. Since if everything were perfect in his mind, then he'd never even fathom the concept of an affair in your relationship.
Best of luck, I hope it all works out. Be honest, talk it over. Just don't let it fester. It's the kind of thing that has to be dealt with straight away.
2006-09-28 22:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by koala988 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he as no prove, then trust me honey the saying is more than just a saying, he is having an affair. O r maybe you're the one whose giving him reasons for saying that after all actions speaks louder than words.
2006-09-28 22:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jessy k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda like "he who smelt it delt it". Anyway, if he suspects you of having an affair, then he probably has good reason to, Most, if not all women, will step out on their loving, loyal, hard working husbands the first chance that they get. So listen here Missy. STOP screwing around on your husband. Try keeping your pants on when hubbys off at work, you damn wh---!
2006-09-28 22:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the accuser is the one wanting to cover their rear. So maybe he's thinking about it for justification.
2006-09-28 22:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your conscience is clear I'd suggest his may not be....go to a marriage counselor ASAP.
2006-09-28 22:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by BOISE_DD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the one that says it has insecurities about something: you or themselves.
2006-09-28 22:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOPE. I ACCUSED MY EX OF CHEATING AND HE WAS THE ONE DOING IT. THAT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING. I ACUSE BECAUSE I BELEIVE THE PERSON IS DOING IT.
2006-09-28 22:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes that is the case but not all the time sometimes people so things to make their mate think that they are cheating
2006-09-28 22:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋