What to do?

Question

I have a co-worker who keeps shouting out or saying degrading this about me to the rest of the staff; one day we are ok the next day it seems she's trying to sabbatoge my character in the office... How should I go about stoping her without making matters worse, I don't know wha this girrl is capable of. it's obvious shes trying to belittle my character but how do I stop her???

Answer 1

In the USA there is a Non harrasment clause for employment. Contact your supervisor and file a formal complaint. An atty would LOVE to sue the firm on your behalf, BIG $ for you if they allow it to continue. Start wrting down everything she says, who the whitnesses were and when and were she says it. You hit the jackpot!

Answer 2

Follow the chain of command in your department. It usually helps to go directly to your immediate supervisor and discussing this with him/her first. They must keep your identity and accusations confidential. If the problem persists then take the next step by going to your supervisor's supervise and explain to him/her what is going on. They too, must keep it confidential. By now, there will probably be some tension in the room and maybe a little animosity even. Just keep your cool and act like nothing is going on. There are many rules and regulations that employees, and management must follow in the work force and they can be enforced by human resources. Have you ever thought that maybe this person is doing these things because she is jealous of you for some reason? People act out in different ways to try to earn someones approval. You WANT to be the better person here and dont do something that you might regret in the long run. Let the chain of command take care of it for you. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

You and your supervisor need to confront this person away from the presence of the other staff.
If there is a personal issue that reflects into the office, then it needs to be discussed.
Otherwise, you do not have much of a supervisor to allow this to continue to this extent.
State your dissappointment that supervisors have allowed anyone to have the privilege to berate another person in this manner.
State that if this is allowed to be continued, then you have no choice but to report it to upper managment or to leave the job or request that person be terminated or placed on probation period for this is harassment.
Your work there is just as worthy as the next persons'.
Verbal Abuse is not to be tolerated anymore than sexual harrassment.
Check out your workplace tolerance policy and proceed as needed.

Best wishes!

Answer 4

This is harrasment and your supervisor and the Human Resources department (if you have one) have an obligation to intervene on your behalf, but you'll have to document what's going on (dates, times, what's said, who witnessed).

Be very clear about what you want:
- the behavior must stop immediately
- you want assurance that the colleague will be counseled and if it happens again, disciplinary actions will be taken according to company policy.

If you get no satisfaction from the supervisor, go to his/her supervisor and on up until someone pays attention. People will continue to engage in behaviors until someone demonstrates that the behavior is not acceptable. There have to be consequences for this person up to and including dismissal for her inability to get along with others.

Good Luck, hon!

Answer 5

Go to your boss if that doesnt help ignore her if u cant just go right up to her and tell her how u feel. You cant just keep taking all of this you are going to end up snapping at her so just tell her how u feel now before it really gets out of hand and ask her nicely to stop and stop talking to her. Make it a hi and bye relationship

Answer 6

Always carry a piece of paper (loks like you are headed somewhere) and walk away from her.

"I've got to do this (wave the paper around) I'll catch you in 5". But of course never do.

Answer 7

When a guy did that to me, I literally put my hands on him for the first time ever, and gave him to know his behavior was unwelcome.

Nothing more happened after that, to date. It might work for you.

Answer 8

place some chewing gum on the earpiece of her telphone.
tape all the objects on her desk in place when she is not there.
put glue in the locks on her desk.
turn the light off in the restroom when she is in there.
page her to another location of the building.

Answer 9

yeah. when i was in school, i had this girl in my grade who is very similar to the co-worker you have just described in behaviour. she was one of my best friend's best friend (my best friend considers her closest friends as her best friend, so she has a little bit of best friends), but me and the girl were the main ones. at first, we got along quite well together until i saw a different side to her where she would spread rumours about me behind my back that weren't true and try to belittle me to people to the point that one of my good friends started to do the same thing to me. i hated it. they would say all these mean things to me as well, like saying that im a nothing and that i'm never gonna amount to anything in my life, and that they were a lot prettier than i was and i would never get a boyfriend. i told my best friend about it, hoping that it was gonna stay confidential between us, but once she saw my friend, she couldnt help but to confront her about it, and it got worse when the friend had a smug look on her face and gave my best friend a dirty look, with which my best friend decided straight away to cause a physical fight with her, leaving the friend on the floor crying. my best friend told me she wouldnt have done that if the friend hadnt had that smug look on her face and given her that dirty look. my school was gonna get the police involved to arrest my best friend but all they could get was for them to knock on the door of her house as i went straight to the principal to tell him what had really happened. he spoke to the friend (be aware that my friends who were her friends more than they were mine turned their backs on me and blamed me entirely for what had happened, leaving me with no friends at school), and he also spoke to my ex-friends which they then backed off and they were no longer making matters worse for me anymore. they came to the compromise with me that they weren't gonna talk to me, but if i came past them and they happened to see me, that they'd say hi and walk away. they then became more friendly to me and i was soon able to make new friends, though because these friends had also been against me at first, i had also become friends with year 7 boys as we didnt get to talk much and all we did was play basketball. (this being in my senior year at school and my best friend had left in year 10 when it was just starting to occur, the belittling and talking about me behind my back). im not saying that you should tell one of your friends about the situation, but you probably would need to speak to someone about it, mayb your supervisor or perhaps try to get to the bottom of it by speaking to the people she's talking about you to and, with them, confront her about it.