I love my husband but he gets on my nervse so bad all we do is ague about stupid stuff all he do is talk about when he was in high school i wasnt with him then and i wonder if he is missing some or somebody i asked him but he said its not that i think he is not being real with me. whats up yall?
2006-09-28 14:56:23 · 19 answers · asked by mrsp27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not know if this will help...... but maybe you n your hubby should reflect on this ...... " Listening is a form of art ....it is not acquired , it is learnt .... so the best thing for the both of you might be to learn to listen ... to what the other is saying....... by asking.... ( each other ).....the meanings behind statement being made..... instead of making your own meanings.
As for him - getting on your nerves.... and his talks of his high school days ...... is it possible you and your husband have expectations..... that are not being met or ever discussed about.....in other words you are both skirting the real issues bothering the both of you.
Communication is about connecting.... not out smarting the other.
When we are aware of the source we are coming from.... we are better equipped to connect emotionally to those we love. So talk from that source... (in your case ) the love... you have for your husband. Change happen when we allow it.... so make a decision today.... to change the style of communicating... in your marriage. Good luck.
2006-09-28 16:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
think he has not a thing to talk about but h/s you and him have to do things together yard work some thing go out to eat any thing so then you will have something to talk about take a week end off go on a little trip get away good luck to the both of you
2006-09-28 17:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with him. Tell him that his focusing on his past without you hurts you. Let him know that it's o.k. sometimes to tell stories about fun in his youth, but you need a balance- the two of you should be making new memories & stories together.
2006-09-28 15:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by from HJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl. look at the brighter side.. you LOVE your husband. LOVE is a decision. accept his past, acknowledge him now and face the future with him.
highschool life is very colorful, u may want to do positive scripting. we might not know that he really grew during that time.
2006-09-28 15:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by crystalink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mayb he is afraid of reality and growing up therefore he stays back in the memories and mentality of highschool.I dont really think you are the problem.
2006-09-28 15:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks of himself as if he was once this cool hs kid, and he probably thinks he attracts you more if he acts like he did in hs. I am pretty sure he is trying to get your attention like that, just play along for once and hopefully he gets over it like that.
2006-09-28 14:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have to ditch him, if all you guys are dong is just arguing. Its possible that he is missing someone, but maybe he saw that person the other day and he is think he is missing out on something.
2006-09-28 14:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I believe he is thinking of his youth. Why don't you compare these times in your life together? It can be fun to hear about the silly pranks and things you two did.
2006-09-28 15:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MAYBE HE REALLY ENJOYED HIS HIGH SCHOOL YEARS. YOU NEED TO ASK HE WHAT HE'S TRYING TO GET AT. IT COULD BE SOMETHING BUT MOST LIKELY HE IS JUST REMINISSING AND WANTS TO DO IT WITH THE ONE HE LOVES.
PS. ALL MEN GET ON OUR NERVES.
2006-09-30 03:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. I would guess he's missing his youth. I say you try gentle persuasion and see if you can get him to open up.
2006-09-28 14:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by steelypen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋