About 3 yrs. ago i had my tubes tied. It totally messed up my hormones. I went through a spell for about 2 yrs. that I just wasn't interested in sex. Needless to say, my husband was not happy. Well, they put me on hormone medicine and now things are getting back to normal, but my husband now thinks I'm just doing it to please him, thinking I don't really want to have sex. I don't know what to do to show him the drive has really came back.
2006-09-28 14:49:16 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him that the medication is working! And then, JUMP HIS BONES!
2006-09-28 14:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband does not seem to be concerned with your health, feelings or YOU!
Males are always coming up with ways to make it easier for them to have sex with the female with out responsibility or caring.
Messing with your tubs, birth control, in any form, is so the female will not worry about babies and more readily say yes to the male. But nature does not play the game that way.
Female desire is to support birth, pleasure is to support male entry. Take away the issues supporting birth and nature takes away desire!!!
If the female can not ovulate Nature will decrease or take away the desire. Nature takes away everything that is not used or needed. Nothing hangs around just to be there without a function or purpose.
2006-09-28 15:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now would be a good time to have a serious talk and let him know that the Dr put you on hormones and they are giving you back your sex drive and you want sex now like before.
2006-09-28 14:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might start by reminding him that you hormones are not oblieged to massage his ego !does he really think that you would have sex even though you didnt want to just to please him? what would give him an idea like this? i think he is very insensitive towards you ! shouldnt he be happy youre sex life is getting back on track instead of giving you a hard time about it? i think you should point these things out to him and get the support and apology you deserve come on girl dont have him treat you like tis yoube been through a hard time goodluck hun
2006-09-28 14:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by answer me this..... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
was he with you when you went to the doctors to get on hormone therapy? if not, why. have you initiated the sex at all? if not you should. if he still does not believe you go to www.webmd.com type in your diagnosis it should give you some of the effects. print it out. also type in the name of the medications and the side effects of the medications you are on print that out and show your husband. sometimes men just don't get it until it's right there in black and white. good luck
2006-09-28 14:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you need sex twice a night, and if he can't perform you are going to go on a swingers site and get satisfaction somehow, anyhow, just gotta have it ! And tell him you want mirrors put up on the bedroom ceiling. Then tell him you just cannot wait until the FedEx man comes tomorrow... and how he is just ohhh wow! so much fun!
If this doesn't work nothing will.
2006-09-28 14:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel bad. Like 85% of married couples stop having sex when the kids come. Enjoy the new found freedom of never having to submit to your husband in bed again.
2006-09-28 14:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Amy, sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. Communication is the skill. You should be open. I would do something really romantic to show him. A part where you can have dinner and openly express with one another your desires and so forth and the other part of the romantic evening actually *showing* him your feelings. GL Amy.
2006-09-28 15:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A guy likes nothing better than to be taken by surprise. If you want to show him you really want him you need to take charge. Let out the animal in you that you've been missing since your operation. Seduce him, tease him, and make him feel powerless to your will. In my opinion nothing is better than when your partener shows you that all they want is you for hours and hours.
Hope it works out for you hun ^.^
2006-09-28 14:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
MAYBE YOU AND HIM, SHOULD GO,OUT ON A DATE.LIKE YOU FRIST MEET. TO DINNER, MAYBE THE MOVIES. DRESS IN SOMETHING SEXY, GO OUT DANCING. MAYBE TAKE A SHOWER, TO GATHER. TRY MAKING LOVE, IN THE SHOWER. OR DO, SOMETHING EXOTIC. TO GATHER. MAYBE FEED, HIM FRUIT. PUT ON, SOME SEXY LING IRE. GIVE, HIM A MASSAGE. USE SOME OILS, PUT YOUR HAIR. IN SOME SEXY STYLE,OR TRY A WIG. CHANGE DIFF RENT POSITIONS, TALK DIRTY. WHEN HE MAKING LOVE, ACT LIKE THIS. IS THE FRIST TIME, YOU MET. SPARK'S". SHOULD IN GITE , EITHER WAY. IF THIS DOESN'T. WORK I WOULD TRY, A SEX THERAPISTS. GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-28 15:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry about yourself!If he cares he will give you all that you need .I was in a certain situation about 5 months ago i didn't want anything to do with it.Now that's all i think about!It may take time for him to know for sure if this is the way you fill.Keep on
2006-09-28 14:57:17 · answer #11 · answered by funnynotlost 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋