I am afraid it will make him angry and not try to work things out. I have stood by him through alot of bs and couldn't watch him destroy himself anymore. not fair to me and kids. He has not sent anything for our kids so I have to get something. why am i such a jerk and afraid to hurt him when he obviously does not seem to care????
2006-09-28 14:48:20 · 7 answers · asked by djc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry that you are going through a tough time right now.
You are not a jerk because you don't want to hurt him, but the reality is that you have four children who are entitled to support from their father.
Take a deep breath and start whatever process you need to take to get some financial help for your children. This is not being mean, it is your responsibility. Your husband is an adult and if his life is a mess, that is his problem. But your children deserve the financial support to which they are entitled.
Good Luck!
2006-09-28 14:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him worry about your children. If he hasn't done anything to try and support the kids then getting child support from him is the next thing. You didn't make these children on your own. My husbands ex drains him for all he gots we live paycheck to paycheck. His ex wife is a very bad person/mother. My husband is paying for a child thats not even his. The ex cheated while they were married but he is still considered the father only b/c the child was born during the marriage. Messed up situation i know. But anyways make him pay support he will seem to care when he has to pay the child support or go to jail. Good luck.
2006-09-28 22:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a pushover. He is not with your family anymore, but he still has obligations. Why worry about hurting his feelings, when your kid's well being is at stake? Where are your priorities?
2006-09-28 21:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are in the same boat. but look at this.if you really love someone you would want him to be responsible, right and be the best person. it may not work for now. but how about your kids. wpuld you want them to grow with anger, its not fair.u may have disaggreement but do not involve the kids. it would be best to file suppost, in this manner he could fulfill his responsibilty as father, he failed as husband but should not fail as dad
2006-09-28 21:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try some co-dependent meetings. even if there on line.you need it after 15 years,i dose not matter if he gets mad ,you need to find away to get in healthy frame of mind..
2006-09-28 22:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what to do
you are not thinking of the children you are thinking of yourself now start thinking of them and get what they need
2006-09-29 03:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont worry about it too muchh u will get STRESSED!!!!
my mom kinda went thru this!
2006-09-28 21:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Monica Prasad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋