My friend has gym. We are both Freshman, he has come to me in confidenece, but I need your help. When he goes into the locker room they are required to take showers, so he told me that they have to go into the shower naked without a towel. He looks at other guy's penis' comparing theirs to his. Is this normal. He also told me that he had dreams about those people and him in the shower, both of them being naked.
2006-09-28 14:41:32 · 9 answers · asked by moon_lite_boy 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
wow this could be analyzed on so many levels.....
1. it's normal to be curious if your penis is normal, therefore it's normal to compare yours with others. I've never been so brave as to look at others' in the shower room. That's why they put men in porno movies.
2. Your friend is telling you that he looks at other guys' penises, and that he dreams about it at night. it SOUNDS like your friend is coming out of the closet, and he's chosen you to come out to f rist because he either really trusts you, or he's hoping you'll walk out of that closet with him.
3. This almost sounds like a 'my friend is actually me, i just don't want anyone to know it's me' kind of story. if that's the case, the best thing you can do is stop feeling self shame over this. refer back to number 1 for why there's no shame in it.
4. There's also no shame in it because, as most gay men will surely tell you, there's nothing 'abnormal' about being attracted to other men. It would be abnormal for a straight man, such as myself, but that doesn't make it abnormal or wrong for your friend if he's gay.
2006-09-28 15:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by pukid68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some it's normal, maybe just being thrown into the shower with other guys..he's never experienced that. Others are just thankful to get a shower and get out of there! About dreaming about the other guys and him being in the shower, that's a little beyond normal I guess.
2006-09-28 14:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by EW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably just normal curiosity, checkin out another guys dong isnt weird when your that age, dreams about people naked in showers could mean aklot of things, doesnt nessisarily havce to do with sexual preferance if thats what your concerned about,it might be an insecurity thing.
2006-09-28 14:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like to compare and talk about the size of eachother's penises. it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or anything. this subject for guys is quite normal. we also dream about whatever happened that day, so his brain is probably just recalling a memory from earlier that day. its not like its perverted or that he wants to see them naked, its just how the human brain works while we sleep. for example...my mom and i were talking about tattoos one day and the next day she told me that she had a dream about me getting a tattoo. see? do you get it? so you're friend most likely isnt gay :D
2006-09-28 16:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal to look but its not normal to have dreams about them with him being naked. Hes probly gay.
2006-09-28 16:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking and comparing discretely is normal but I think dreaming about them is abnormal (unless it is a nightmare).
2006-09-28 16:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by dogpreacher@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls dont know crap about this question. All guys are curious about how they stack up to other guys. You will grow out of it though. Its normal .Girls are the same when it comes to boobs.
2006-09-28 14:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a male, and for males his age and really any age are curious about looking at another male, this is normal and if you would admit it i bet you have too.
2006-09-28 14:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Alan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably starting to realize he is gay. I thought you weren't allow to shower together anymore.
2006-09-28 14:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋