Are men today's 'feminists'? Opinions... Views...?

Question

Feminism is asserting female strengths, such as sensitivity and protection. But feminists are agressive, competitive women. These are masculine strengths.

With the advent of feminism, women began to behave more like men. Society became unbalanced. Both men and women were being aggressive and competitive.

In an attempt to readdress this imbalance, so-called 'new men' emerged. These men were more sensitive and protective - female strengths.

So, now some women are behaving like some men used to and some men are behaving like some women used to.

The feminists - the ones asserting female strengths - are men.

In the 'battle of the sexes' no one has won and no one has lost. Men and women have simply swapped sides. So we are no nearer now to winning the true 'battle' than we ever were - the battle to understand each other.

Answer 1

Interesting analysis. As a woman, I have never really seen it as a battle anyway. But I think you are right about how we are starting (in some cultures) to achieve balance. I think it is wonderful that men are starting to discover their "feminine" selves. Kind and caring men with the ability to nurture themselves and others is a major step forward in our civilization. Just like having self-reliant women is a social blessing for us all. Feminism is about the liberation of all people, not just one "side".

Answer 2

This is an issue within feminism: if (say) the business world embraces male traditionally attitudes (competition, confrontation), then do women gain fair access at top jobs by adopting these traits, or do we work to introduce other attitudes (nurturing, making all feel welcomed)?

Like everything, the answer is meeting somewhere between the extremes, and different individuals (men and women all) use different degrees of both strategies in their lives.

Don't think it was ever really a battle. Though not sure if everything has swapped -- the U.S. senate has gone from 0% female to 14% female. Though recent studies do show women succeeding at college substantially better than men.

Answer 3

Well, I can see what you mean, but I think it is over generalized.

Just as in any other TREND, some people go too far.

The battle of the sexes and widespread feminism occurred just when my husband and I were forming our marriage basis. He became more sensitive and I became more aggressive. And yet, we didn't swap sides. He is still very much the masculine role model, the manual laborer, the one who does the yard work. I'm still very much the cook, the nurturer, the one who does the house work. And yet we both have full time careers.

This is what the feminists were trying to accomplish for married couples. And it's the way it should be.

If some people took it too far, well that does not mean we have not won the battle. In my opinion, the battle is over.
And we both came out winners. :)

Answer 4

I think that's very true, but I think that men haven't exactly assumed the feminine traits. At least not what I've seen, but I think they rather desire for women to assume their old fashioned roles again, to a degree. I am not a feminist and I think that a household is more harmonious when a woman isn't making more money than the male, and doesn't abandon some of her duties such as cooking and cleaning. I do believe in fair and equal treatment between the sexes, but I believe that when women decide to assume roles that were the male's it throws off the dynamic in a relationship. I think there's always been a desire to understand one another but when women take on the male's jobs there's intimidation and the male needs to feel that he's the provider and protector. Ultimately it's a struggle for power. That's why I don't believe in most of the feminist ideals, and don't believe that they benefit either party.

Answer 5

When I read your question I get the feeling that your analysis is based on stereotypes. And I'm not sure if sensitive men necessarily fight for women's rights? Perhaps you are too fixated on gender differences. I think that sensitive men have always been around, how else do you explain all the literature and music that emerged from the times that were mostly male dominated?

Answer 6

The way your putting it is that all men and women act one way or the other. In the way you say it I'm a guy who has this feminism thing, in a way that I can have sensitivity and protection ways, but I still hold thing that other would consider manly. Its not whether you act like a man or a women, but its how you, there person, acts. Its not that men are acting like women and women are acting like men, but everyone acts like themselves, and some people act more aggressive and others act more...............calmly i guess is the word I'm looking for. So its "human" behavior, not men or women behavior.

Answer 7

What it says in the dictionary and what happens in genuine existence are 2 countless issues....what you have faith feminism to be isn't what it is....its like the form says that there'll be no discrimination in keeping with race....and yet racism happens daily...words dont consistently tournament to actuality...and feminism isn't benign.