The other day my hubby shaved me down below and later that evening after we were all showered up and ready for bed, he performed oral sex on me. Without the hair it felt totally different!! It was really nice and I actually had an orgasm which has never happened for me with just oral. Now I'm hooked on just oral and I'm afraid I'm driving my hubby nuts. I've wanted it several times a day. The sex has always been great but how do I get over this oral fixation I have currently? He doesn't seem to be getting tired of it but I don't want to grow selfish and not allow him penetration anymore. I am serious about this please answer maturely.
2006-09-28 14:15:21 · 18 answers · asked by SmartyPants 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fizixx, No itch if you use lots of moisturizer on the area. I can't email you directly for some reason.
2006-09-28 14:32:34 · update #1
I don't really see any reason for concern here. Do you give him oral? Are you both getting pleasure from what you are doing? You can get far more sensations from oral than you can from any other form of sex. As long as you both are getting pleasure from what you are doing there is no issue that's what "Making love" is all about. Giving the MOST pleasure to your partner that you can so if this is what REALLY works for you....or for both of you everything is fine. As long as BOTH partners are satisfied.
Have fun with your new found excitement....and don't worry you will still want penetration sometimes *S*
2006-09-28 14:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to believe you're married and only now discovering the sheer joy of shaving your pubes and of oral sex. However, I do honestly believe you.
I'm 42, and on my second marriage, and I can honestly tell you that I have not gone down on an unshaven woman since the ripe age of 17. I just won't have it any other way. Luckily for me, my current wife of 13 years and counting, was clean shaven since before we met. It was an incredible surprise for me since I'd always had to shave them before I met her. To be totalyl fair though, I've been shaving my pubes for a number of years also. I didn't like to hear my wife trying to cough up a furball so I shaved and have kept it that way ever since.
On to your question...
It's entirely ok to be selfish in terms of your orgasm. So long as you're not being selfish 100% of the time. As some have mentioned previously, there are number of things that can be tried such as 69, reciprocal oral sex, sex after you've recovered, or even giving him head (pleasing him) before he goes down on you. This way you can totally relax after you've had your orgasm and even go to sleep if you wish without having to feel guilty. Usually, my wife pleasures me orally, then I do the same for her, and then once we've recovered, we go on to have some incredible mid-blowing sex till we're both down and out for the count. However, there are times when one of us is not really 'in the mood'. On those ocassions the person that is not in the mood becomes the givee and just pleases the other. This is ok. Both partners do not have to be pleased 100% of the time! Selfishness is ok once in awhile.
By the way, as I said earlier, we've been married for 13 years now, have 2 kids, still make time to please each other, and we both still enjoy each other immensely. A marriage is what you put into it and will only succeed over the long run if you are both 100% selfless.
Good Luck,
LL1
2006-09-28 22:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by latinlover1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just remember...most guys love getting oral too. I would suggest you do some 69 more often, that way you can get your oral and he can get his. After you've had an ######, have sex with him. You will feel great, and who knows... maybe you will *** twice or more. Your current oral fixation is probably no differrent than the typical guys "need" for oral. If my girlfriend offered to give me oral everytime i gave her oral... i dont think i'd ever stop but to eat drink and breathe.
2006-09-28 21:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree oral is an unbelievable feeling but penetration now that's in a category all in its own. Go for the 69 and finish off with overall complete satisfaction...
2006-09-28 22:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral is just the foreplay! My hubby and I always include oral. Usually 69. After that we do the real deal. Try it. You are being selfish if you do not allow him to be satisfied as well.
2006-09-28 21:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get over it ?!
Are you nuts!?.......LOL........let him do what he wants too, but what's the big deal for him to suck you off? I'd love to have a girlfriend like that. In fact my last g/f I did it anytime she wanted it, for as long as she wanted it, in any way she wanted it! All I can say is yumm yumm yummmmmmm.....lol.
I was more than happy to 'do' her that way. She did do me pretty much any way I wanted too, that was about her only unselfish quality tho sadly......she was not a very nice person the rest of the time. I think she just liked me for 'that'....which didn't make me feel very good....so SHE isn't around any more.....lol.
So, give to your man, and I'm sure he won't have any ptoblem giving to you! ;)
How are you dealing with the stubble tho? I'd like to know how you are handing that.....if you could email me because I've not met anyone I could ask that question directly to, and it HAS to itch like mad. I'm curious about it.
Good luck to you.....sounds like you found something pretty cool! :)
2006-09-28 21:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel, i felt the same way at one point too, once you orgasm from that its hard to bypass it, its totally normal for you to want it all the time, and why the hell would you want to get over the fixation? hahahahah, enjoy it while you get it, if he enjoys it and it sounds like he does then go for it, trust me in time you will want to move on from it, and do other things, but for now i say go for the enjoyment of it. Your hubby probably gets off on it in his own way as well, knowing he has that power to get you off would get him totally excited.
2006-09-28 21:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by lavidamasespecial1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with wanting that as it is, in my opinion, one of the best things in sex. Just don't forget to reciprocate the act and be all about yourself. Afterall, If u like receiving, u must also learn to give.
2006-09-28 21:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it girl you on a roll here. You do something exciting to him a bit. Enjoy each other within the bounds of YOUR moral standards and of course his
2006-09-29 05:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by quinton p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it. Just enjoy it and suggest to your husband he bring another female into your love making. You both will enjoy that. She can give you head and he can do her from behind.
2006-09-29 00:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋