My ex-boyfriend and I have a child together. My child has has several conditions which have caused him to become depressed and needed to be hospitalized for his own protection. His father has been in and out of his life his ENTIRE life and therefor we didn't allow him medical rights. I understand that being his father he needs to know and I have always told him everything I know at the timeand thats all he ever asked of me. Since my childs hospitalization his family suddenly wants to jump into his life and insists that I allow my childs father to be involved in all the decisions, medications, counciling,ect.. (I didnt alow this out of fear of them making a mess of the progress which we have already made.) But when I call my ex to tell him the choices we have made and so on...his family and him call me a liar and tell me I need to get my child out of there because they think there is nothing wrong with him. His family is calling me and coming to my home and harassing me. What can I do?
2006-09-28 14:15:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you need a restraining order? You can obtain one by phoning the police and making a report of harassment and that you are concerned for you and your child's safety. You may need to change your phone number so that you don't have to deal with the annoying calls. As far as his father is concerned, you don't have to personally speak to him either. Send him a letter or give him an email address where he can get the info. after you post it to him. That way when you've tired of his immature behavior, simply shut the computer down. Last but least, give him a phone number to a cell , not your home number. When you've grown tired of him as well, shut the phone off...Let me say this, been there done that. You cannot make a man be mature and act responsible. There is a reason why the two of you aren't together and why he's not been in your son's life in the first place. I had to stop entertaining ignorant behavior. It had taken its toll on me. I got a restraining order which limited the phone calls and directed where they were to be. He could not come to my address or near it. He thought it was a joke, but when he was picked up by the police and carreid off in a squad car, who was sorry then. You really want him to know what is going on because when he's ill you feel vunerable anyway. Keep in mind that there is much drama to deal with when you involve him. Are you ready for that? Can you handle it? If not, restrict you contacts....
2006-09-28 14:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by hellokittyt012263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gawd, honey where to start? I feel for you, but more so for your child. I guess you have two choices here. Either get an attorney to go to court against the dad so it's all in black and white who does what, and hopefully that will keep the family at bay if he's denied the right for any input.
Your other route would be that you and everyone else who's weighing in all sit down together with a 3rd party who can mediate ( the kid's counselor would be a good choice) and go through step by step what's been done, what the options are, and what everyone can do to HELP, not HURT, the situation. All that conflict can't be helping this child any!!
Sometimes when people don't understand the situation they open their mouth before they engage their brains.... have someone professional involved educate them so you're all working together, not at odds with each other. Take care, be there for your son, he'll love you even more for it someday. Suz
2006-09-28 21:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all do you have your childs custody? If you don't get it immediatly! You should talk to your ex and tell him how you feel about this situation to see if he can do something about it. Although, this my not stop them. If things get to bad you should get a restraing ordr against all of them! And for the while don't listen to them they are stupid!
2006-09-28 21:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by ana3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them, of course they are going to make you feel like crap IF YOU LET THEM!! Just tell them if they can't talk to you with respect, you'll make it harder for them to see the child or something..
2006-09-28 21:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can call the cops only if you have to may be you can lit your son go to his house them thy can how it is if not have them call the doc. he can tell them to be nice let them know you don't want them to come over or call you let them you will call the cops then do it good luck to you
2006-09-28 21:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and tell them u dont want them around ur child or ur house
2006-09-28 21:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pray
2006-09-28 21:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋