My boyfriend is really great! However, when ever I am helping my kids with their homework, he feels the need to jump in and put in his two cents even though I am doing fine in my explanations. He only confuses them and in the end, the kids end up in tears because his voice ends up belittling them and making them feel as though they are completely wrong and he is always right. When I tell him its time to take a break and stop, he tells me to shut the F*** up and goes on even though it is obvious that he needs to stop. What can I do to get him to understand when it is time to stop?
2006-09-28 14:06:20 · 16 answers · asked by granolagirl12001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Although it stinks, Harry is right!! You need to get rid of the jerk, he isn't going to change the way he is with your kids, or with you. If he does it isn't going to be for the better.
Your best bet is to tell the guy to kick rocks and do a little schooling of your own.
2006-09-28 14:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by midlifemommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIS ***! It don't help your children if he's such a jerk to interfere and cause them to cry! This does not sound like someone that you describe as "great". He has no respect for you in front of your children for God's sake! Sorry dear, he's a loser! So, lose him! The reason he don't understand what you are saying to him is because he don't give a f. You and your children can do much better without him. You'll probably see a big difference in their grades and behavior when he leaves. If you are scared to tell him what I just said, let me know. I'll gladly tell him where he need to go....
By the way, I work for Children and Family Services and we have issues with women who fail to protect their children against abusive men. Verbal abuse is as damaging as physical. Don't belittle this situation. You could lose your kids. Domestic violence comes in all forms. The first thing that women in your situation say is "he's great. He means well. He's never hit them". Well, well. Words can hurt, esp. from someone that a child don't trust or think that care/love them. Is he worth you losing custody of your kids? What if they tell their teachers what he does?Your kids should be and best be your priority- NOT A MAN! Think about it!
2006-09-28 21:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by hellokittyt012263 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO, NO, honey! Listen, he may be a great man, but your children come first! No one should be belittling your children and making them cry. Certainly no one should be telling your to shut the F*ck up. What kind of respect is that? You, as a woman and MORE importantly, as a HUMAN BEING deserves more respect. YOU are the parent and you have every right to speak up. If you can't speak up, then kick his @ss out. Don't be with him just because he's great for you. How about your kids? He may be committed to you, but not your children. Are you, as a parent, gonna let him speak to your kids that way? You should be with someone that already loves children and has patience with children. Believe me, I know what you're going through. I have a friend in your predicament. She loves her man, but her man is greedy and wants nothing to do with her children. He's mean to her kids. What kinda mom is that? When all the signs are there. Just be careful, because this guy you're with may be possessive, aggressive and lead to mental and physical abuse. As the saying goes sweetie: "There's plenty of fish in the sea."
2006-09-28 21:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oooo... you had to start out with "My boyfriend is really great!" Even an exclamation point. Not a good sign. Who are you trying to convince there? He's pushy, belittles your kids (AND YOU), and has told you more than once to shut up (even swearing at you) when these are your kids and their needs you're talking about. He may not be patient enough, but I'd guess you have more than enough patience for both of you, and more patience with him than is good for you or your kids. I don't think you're asking the right question, and I don't think you need me to tell you what the real question is. (Just in case you need a hint, it starts with why and ends in how long.)
2006-09-28 21:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by v2iguana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all..put your kids feelings first not his..thats always the most important. If you need to include him..which I don't think you do..let him know..that this is your time with your children..if you feel like you need his help you will definately ask..until then tell him to shut the he&! up!!!!!!!Good luck on that one..this situation seems like a never ending story..he's always gonna want to put his cents in.
2006-09-28 21:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dump his freaking a.s.s. He has no right to interfere. And to top it off he shouldn't be talking to any of you the way he does. How do you stay with a such a person that has no morals or respect for you and your kids. He is no good. Get him out of your kids life before he gives them a complex. Don't let no man mistreat your kids or yourself. Your kids well being and happiness come first!
2006-09-28 21:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, apperently he wants to have control over everything, and he has no right to tell to shut the F*** up if he is not even the father. Well it is not even right to tell you that in front of your children. just dump him before he makes things worse with you and your children.
2006-09-28 21:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by ana3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you could tell him to stop. If he doesn't , he is a jerk and is overstepping boundaries. I'm sure he doesn't mean to belittle anyone, he just wants to share what he knows or thinks he knows and expand possibilities. Maybe hes just crazy. I think he just wants to expand peoples horizons a bit. If we can imagine it, its at least possible. If we can't , then it isn't.
Youth is a time for dreaming and wondering.
2006-09-28 21:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he is a little controlling and has a anger issue, It might not be healthy for the kids to even be around him!!
2006-09-28 21:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by ?rukkaloca24? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a know it all bastard and really your kids don't need to be subjected to his ignorant a s s tell him that you don't need his help and when he tell you to shut u tell him no there your kids and your sick of seeing them crying! and then throw is a s s to the curb and find a good man.
2006-09-29 01:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by munchkin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋