To set the record straight my husband and I are just friends and share a mutual agreement that we are seperated even though we're still living together temporarily.
This guy I've known for over 13 years has contacted me a few months ago and we share a mutual interest however an official relationship between us has not been established because he does not call when he says he will. I know that I'm married and I've told him that he is free to call and even asked him if he feels uncomfortable calling my home and he says no but then adds he wonders how my husband feels. My husband knows about us and he is very supportive of me because we are great friends.
I even gave him my new cell # recently but he still hesitates to call. When I call him everything is still the same and I know that he is still interested in me because we talk about our future together.
I addressed the calling with him and thought we had an understanding but he still won'
2006-09-28 13:51:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's probably not really interested and just doesn't want to say it. The cause of disinterest is probably at very least in part, your situation. The guy might even be afraid of getting shot! Plus, he could wish to keep away from someone on the "bounce".
You're probably best to get completely out of the current relationship you're in and take a long time off...like a year or two before trying again. Finding a little independence might be just what the doctor ordered.
2006-09-28 14:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Golfgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not calling you because of your mutual agreement with your husband. The fact that you two still share the same house shows that there is a posibblity that a reconnection could happen. That's risky when it comes to love. No man wants to know that his significant other is still in the same house with her ex.
If your over your spouse then go through with the divorce and move out. Don't toggle the fence.
2006-09-28 13:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by partknit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably so, I mean your married. Whats the hold up of getting out. Thats just wrong even if your husband thinks its ok. Its very disrespectful for both of you and I have to say I respect the guy for not wanting to call, at least he seems to have some morals about him some what, if you can call it that.
2006-09-28 13:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by smiles_o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hesitate my darling not hesitates....leave the final (S) out of the word in your question.
To answer your question...I think this guy has loose marbles for one and second he aches.
Let me explain my comments to you.
If a Man will sneak on his wife to be with another Woman, he will also do the same for the new Woman in his life and will never change and vice versa.
Rule number #1 Never full around with married couples.
2006-09-28 13:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi- Frist OF ALL YOUR STILL MARRIED, FRIEND'S OR NOT. AND IT'S, BY THE LAW. YOUR COMMITTING ADULT RY. NEXT IT PUZZLE ME. IF YOUR SE PARTED, THEN WHY ARE YOU TWO STILL, LIVING TO GATHER. AND YOU WANT A MAN IN VOLED, WHY ARE. YOU STILL THERE, AND MARRIED. FRIEND'S OR NOT. TH ATS DISRESPECT, NOT ONLY TO YOURSELF. BUT TO YOUR, HUSBAND AS WELL. I DO NOT, BLAME THE OTHER MAN. HE'S SMART, BECAUSE IF YOUR DOING, YOUR HUSBAND . LIKE THIS, HE PROBABLY. BELIEVE YOU'LL, DO HIM, THE SAME WAY. IF YOU WANT HIM, TO BE WITH YOU. I THINK ,YOU SHOULD GET. A DIVORCE FRIST, THEN GET YOUR OWN. THEN YOU NEED, TIME FOR YOUSELF. BUT YOU REALLY, NEED TO THINK .THIS THING THROUGH, BECAUSE I THINK. YOU STILL HAVE, FEELINGS. THERE FOR YOUR HUSBAND, IF NOT WHY ARE YOU THERE, IF IT'S OVER. AND YOUR SEPARTED, SO YOU SAY. BUT SEPARTION , IS, I THOUGH. WHEN TWO PEOPLE, ARE NOT LIVING TOGATHER . HE LIVES, SOMEWHERE ELSE, AND SO DO YOU. AND YOU, DON'T SEE EYE TO EYE. YOU NEED, TO RE EXAM . YOURSELF SEE WHAT YOU REALLY WANT, BECAUSE YOUR TRYING. TO PLAY A VERY, DANGEROUS GAME. W ITH TWO PEOPLE EMOTION'S. RUNNING WILD , FOR YOU. . YOU WANT YOUR CAKE AND ICECREAM TOO"
2006-09-28 14:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by nisey 168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have way too much baggage. Move away from your husband, get a divorce, and be single. Then, you can get all perturbed when people won't call. Until then, yeah, it's hard to understand, and it's a strange setup.
2006-09-28 13:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds kinda ****** up. you or the husband should move out. then he will call.
2006-09-28 13:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably freaked out about your bizarro situation.
you want him to call, get your own apartment.
2006-09-28 13:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would make be that way , you need to be on your own for him to be at ease with you
2006-09-28 13:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or, it could mean something else.
2006-09-28 13:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋