In a marriage when is enough enough?when is it ok to walk away?how much pain do u have to endure to make it ok

Answer 1

Ohhh i know that one, i was in a brutal marriage for 7 years, i had to go, it was hard as I had kids.
I had no car, but made my way to the top

Answer 2

That's a tough question. Are u sure that u put all of yourself into the marriage, that you gave 100% and tried everything in your power to make things workout. Did he give 100% and go above and beyond for everything you thought was important even though you knew he really did not want to. Are you sure that the pain is not the pain inflicted by him, but the pain of being selfish and perhaps not getting your way. Does pain mean he had a different opinion on a subject and because it was different he was being mean, not that adults are entitled to different opinions and that being an adult means you can agree to disagree and still be couple. Try counseling either together or separate. explore every avenue to keep the relationship alive including doing things that u normally would not and expect the same from him. Separate for a time if possible but divorce should be the last measure. Be sure you leave no regrets behind. Alcohol, drugs any addictions can be overcome. If abuse is involved you should leave immediately, give a clear ultimatum for counseling, and only go back if you positively sure that you are safe. Good luck!

Answer 3

When you can't stand his presence anymore, when his smell that used to turn you on becomes repulsive, when he brings you to anger or tears instead of laughter, when his touch becomes disgusting to you, when you rather hurt yourself than having sex with him, When you're not happy with him... go ahead and walk away! What's the worst that can happen? That you'll be free again? So free and happy that you'll think you're high on life? Why do you feel you must keep punishing yourself? Traditional family maybe? Don't you feel you deserve a good life? Of course you do!
While there aren't many things we can control in our lives, the way we treat ourselves we can, so start by treating yourself the way you want to be treated, no matter what it takes and don't feel guilty if you must walk away, he shouldn't have brought you pain, so it's not your responsibility to put up with the crap. Good Luck!
I really hope you can take your relationship as a learning experience and move on and be as happy as is humanly possible, best wishes.

Answer 4

Enough is enough when YOU have had enough of whatever it is you are obviously dealing with. And it's ok to walk away AT ANY TIME there is abuse involved.
And when a marriage is about love, trust, happiness and companionship, there isn't any pain.
If you are feeling pain, there is something WRONG. Love does NOT hurt.
Abuse hurts.

Answer 5

Enough is enough when you are not happy anymore. That point will come at different times for different people. But the bottom line is, if you are unhappy and you see no way of fixing things it is time to walk away.

Answer 6

Enough is enough when YOU say it is enough. My question to you is WHY DO YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO ENDURE PAIN to live. There are a million reasons one can use as a excuse for staying in such a relationship. I suggest you look at your reasons and really ask yourself WHY AM I DOING THIS TO ME.

Answer 7

This is a very personal decision. For myself I can not take a lot of pain and always ended relationships when they turned out to evolve painful components.
And so the very few I stuck with therefore were pretty much painless. I prefer it this way.

You are the only one who can make that decision.

Answer 8

Divorce is always a nasty business. I think the question is how serious were you when you took your marriage vows? Mine included the phrase "Till death do us part." I don't think of this as a formality. If you are being abused, get out of that house. Separating is a more reasonable response than divorce. If you two love each other you will work it out. When I say love, I don't mean an emotion that leaves you feeling giddy. I mean a deep, self-less desire for your spouse's happiness and well-being.

Answer 9

Whenever u say! Some people can endure longer than others. No one has the right to tell you when ur love should run out or when to give up....the only person who can tell u that is you.

Answer 10

Just enough to make sure your bitter towards that person for the rest of your life. Youhave to remember you loved them for something. Whenyou no longer love them walk away... the only thing you are doing is causing yourself and them pain. Make Sense?