Should I demand a little more say in our lifestyle ?

Question

My SO works offshore for 28 Days at time and returns home for 2 weeks then leaves again. He Spends a few days doing things with me , but soon seems busy hanging out with his freind or his Guitar.
I seem to get less than 4 or 5 days out the 2 weeks he is home to spend quality time with him. Much Less enjoy myself.
I am 9 Month Preg , I am find myself growing exstremely lonley , and a little more angry. I hate his choice of places to make our home wich is far from my freinds and family and far from his family , and 2 days from his work.... Sometimes I feel like I have a right to ask for a little more say in our lifestyle exspecially now that I will have our daughetr to raise for the most part alone.

I hace my own income , so its not like he supports me financially.
You Can't get much more low maitainence than me as I am now.
But It seems like he is pushing his limits to see just how low mait he can get me and I am about pissed with it.
How would you feel ? What would you do ?

Answer 1

stand up and voice your opinion, maybe move back closer to your family and friends and let him work the job he likes. you have a life and should start being happy living it. do not let any man keep you from family and friends.

Answer 2

I would have a long talk with him. Don't put him on the defensive by saying "You always" or "You never", just say "When you come home for your off days, I feel like..." If this has been going on for a long time, and you've not said anything about it, he may not know you have a problem with it. In the meantime, you're building anger and resentment, which isn't good for you, your baby or your relationship.

I would be angry, but I would calm down long enough to:

1. Assess how I'm really feeling
2. Determine what my drop dead point is in the relationship
3. Outline what I'm going to say to him
4. Come up with suggestions that would work for both of us
5. Set a timetable for myself if the situation doesn't improve, and have an exit strategy.

I think it boils down to you expressing how you feel and how he responds. That will let you know what you need to plan for your future.

Answer 3

well you have two choices: 1. confront him and tell him how you feel and that you want him to spend more time with him when he is home, you would like to live closer to your family since you are alone so much. 2. leave him and move home with momma

Answer 4

if it were me,i would have a long talk with him and tell him how i feel,maybe you 2 need some counseling.when you talk to him,don't back down and find a way of making him listen.