Iam 20 years old my mother is very emotionally abusive calling me names like,stupid ***** dumb, saying things like she hopes i die since i was maybe like 6 and has always told me if I got pregnant that she would kick me out. Im 30 weeks pregnant and I cannot tell her.I wear like big clothing around the house I know she knows but she is the type of person if she knows something she is just waiting for u to come around so she can just get mad anyway. I was thinking about just staying with my boyfriend and then telling her. im afraid. His family is very supportive. I have very low self esteem since forever .What should I do?
2006-09-28 12:48:03 · 38 answers · asked by JJ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ask her to go shopping and then turn into Babies r us and she'll get the hint.
2006-09-28 12:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by just1more 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that the person who SHOULD be your #1 cheerleader in life (your mom) isn't supportive of you.
That is great that your boyfriends family is supportive.
Move there if you can't get your own place. That will allow you to save some money so you can move out with your boyfriend.
Keep plugging along....you are doing great. That is good you are aware of your self esteem....we feel worse when we reach 30 weeks pregnancy, too. Lots of crazy hormones.
Find the support you can from good people that you trust....sometimes other people are better parents than your own.
Just be good parents to your new baby and don't repeat the cycle. It sounds like you have a really good head on your shoulders. You will do great. Congratulations on your pregnancy!
2006-09-28 13:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have low esteem. It's your mom with the problem from abusing you. Twenty is a perfectly ok age. Stay with your boyfriend if she kicks you out or starts abusing you again. Tell her she should be happy, and scold her. Your old enough not to get time outs. Get mad at her. Tell her she's the reason for your low self esteem...the list probably goes on and on. Make her listen to you this time. (When you tell her, I mean)
2006-09-28 12:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by hamsters00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it's time for you to move out of the house and stop being terrorized by your Mom. I only hope you have some education to get a job with. Hopefully your boyfriend is a good man and will stick by you. But before you leave, go to the pet store and buy as many cockroaches or crickets as you can and let them go in her house.!
This is an example of a poison family.
2006-09-28 12:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by knujefp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move in with my boyfriend and surround myself with positive people because your health is more important than what you mother has to say about you. You should move and then tell her. If you are already out of the house, then she can't kick you out. Showing her that you are stronger than what she wants you to be, will show her that you are responsible and that you don't have to stomach her abuse any longer. After she realizes that you are really out of her house, it will hit her that maybe you will become distant and she will try her hardest to change her ways so that she can be apart of her grandchild's life. After you branch out and see how positive and supportive everyone else is you will regain your self-esteem and your confidence. Congrats to you and may God bless you and keep you and your baby safe.
2006-09-28 13:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20 years old and pregnant? If she isn't supportive at this time leave her to deal with her feelings and maybe after the baby comes she'll come around, if not stay where you got the support. Because right now you don't need any stress.
2006-09-28 12:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by db 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try moving out ASAP! It sounds like a bad situation pregnant or not, but now you have someone else to think about! You wouldn't want to live there after the baby anyway, right? Would you want your baby to have the same experience as you were so unfortunate to have growing up? I would take your boyfriend and his family up on that offer, ASAP! If not for you, for that beautiful baby!
2006-09-28 12:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by pitbull lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Stay with your boyfriend. Do not give her the chance to do to another child what she did to you . . . is still doing to you. She doesn't deserve to be a mother or grandmother. You are sweet and intelligent and have to break away from her now. She will keep you feeling bad about yourself, make the baby feel bad about you and the baby feel bad about her/his self.
When you get away from her, you'll start to find out that other people like and respect you. And most important, your baby will not be exposed to your mother's sick mind.
2006-09-28 13:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie pie your mom needs help if it is a possibility to move into your boyfriends house do so then take mom out to lunch in a very public place and tell her your wonderful news . I suggest if mom does not come around and cease her verbal abuse I would personally limit my child's contact with her paternal verbal abuse is not good for anyone no matter how old you are it still hurts. stress and worry is not healthy for you or your baby move and enjoy your pregnancy it is a wonderful experience if mom does not want to share it is her lose not yours .
2006-09-28 12:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by singleandback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your mom out to lunch...have your boyfriend meet you there. Both of you sit down and tell her you are pregnant. Tell her you plan on moving in with him and yall are going to raise the child. If she is rude, just stand up and tell her that you want her to be part of that child's life but you can't take the abuse she gives. Tell her she knows how to contact you should she ever want to make things right...then leave.
2006-09-28 12:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by ifyouregone.0603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Say Mom I have something to say. Could we talk a minute? Since you're 20 & living at home, it's time for you to mature up and get your own place. If your bf is supportive, get him involved in supporting this baby now.'
2006-09-28 12:58:51 · answer #11 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋