Women only - what does your husband do around he house?

Question

My husband and I both work 40 hours a week but I feel I am getting f------. I do all of the housework, help my son with his homework, look after the pets, grocery shop, pick up the dry cleaning, fix dinner at least 4 times a week, do all the laundry and perform my wifely duties at least 3 times a week. My husband does the yard work!!!! Please please please do not tell me to talk to him about it......... I've been there and done that. All I hear is that he makes 3 times what I make which is why he feels he doesn't have to do sh*t!!!! And also please do not tell me to hire a cleaning lady............. my husband and I keep seperate accounts which means I have NO money!!! He has it all!!!!! I am just trying to find out if I am the only fool living. I do live in a beautiful home, wear nice clothes, drive a nice car, etc so maybe I should keep my pie hole shut. Give me your feedback.

Answer 1

My husband puts the children to bed, helps with their homework, helps me bathe them, takes the children off my hands when its needed, cooks meals on the weekend and more....

Answer 2

Well, my husband and I both work, I have a regular 40-hr-week job, and he runs his own company - which means he's more flexible, but also if sh*t hits the fan he has to be there even if it's middle of the night. We don't have kids, but we do have a lot of pets. We pay a gardener, a pool guy and a maid to take care of a few things, but for the most part my husband always keeps things organized, and on weekends he's often in the garadge working on home improvement projects (building closet organizers, putting in new lights around the house, replacing door jambs, stuff like this). I take care of the kitchen (cooking, dishes, grocery shopping), laundry, and of some of the pets. I think it's fair, I have no complaints. I hate housework, and could never keep my house "clean"; so from the beginning we had an understanding that we will have to hire a maid once we're living together. We're not rich at all, but we make a comfortable living. And yes, he makes more than I do.

Answer 3

I know you said women only- but I would like to add my two cents as a husband if you do not mind.
I work one full time job, plus I have a small business on the side.
I will tell you that I do not do too much around the house, due to the fact that I am never there. I work from 3pm until around midnight, then I wake up around 7:30 and go do my side business until 1 Pm, then I come home take a shower and to the next job.
My wife has never worked outside the home. We have been married 38 years. She loves the money, she does the cooking, yard work, and house keeping. You may call me crazy or stupid for not helping around the house, but this ONE of the reasons that I do not do much around the house.

Answer 4

My husband is an awesome help. When our child was younger, he was totally willing to help with our child, in all aspects. He's strong and good at some things around the house, so he has always done those - like the handyman stuff, and the vacuuming. I've had some major problems with my hands, so he has recently had to do the dishes, for example. If I wash dishes by hand, I can't do anything the rest of the week. He washes the tub and floor, I do the rest. He washes the kitchen floor, I do the rest. Get it? If I ask, and he is able, he is willing. He knows I wouldn't ask unless it were really necessary, so he helps out. It's his family, too, and our son has always helped out as well - depending on what he could do for his age.

Answer 5

No you are not the only fool living.. you are just one that has the juts to say it in public.
My husband comes home on Friday night and the first thing out of his mouth is what is for supper and that he is horney..
He gives me about $50 for grocerys, and gives me $25. for spending money for me knowing that i need gas for my car so how far did t he money go? especially now days. I live on a farm I have all the wood to haul in .. garden to tend to i clean the house. fix him meals. and the only thing he can think of when he comes through the door is sex.. Is that the only reason he come home?
Atleast you have a job to go to.. you get to talk to other people.. He don't do anything around the house.. he sits in his chair and sleeps or goes out mows for the weekend.. and that takes all two days of the weekend mowing 5 acres.
so why come home at all..
I mean and you think you are a fool???????
sounds like you have it pretty good if he gives you all your clothes and cars and everything.. so i would stay quiet until you can't stand it anymore.. he should be more helpful but most me were brought up that they bring home the money and you take care of the house.. guess your stuck doing it all.
good luck and keep your chin up..

Answer 6

I am a stay at home mom. My husband does yard work too. Also, he takes are son to practice 2-3 times a week, his own laundry, which that is his choice, takes out the trash, vacuums, and cleans his bathroom. I help our son 3 nights a week with homework and he helps the other 2. We take turn reading to the kids and getting them ready for bed. He also takes care of the pool because I have no idea how to do that. I do not work outside of the home, so I have no income. I am on his checking account. I put all my money into there when we were married and added him to my savings account. Whats mine is his and what his is mine. The money is our money, not just his since he works. He rather me be able to stay home and raise our kids and that is fine with me. He knows it is hard and tells me all the time...better you than me:-)

Many men are like your husband. My friend works 50-55 hours a week and has 3 kids. Her husband does nothing, but he does work. Just not as much as her.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

You aren't crazy. You have way more responsibilities at home than he. Since when does earning more money absolve him of any responsibility at home? Has it ever occurred to him that you might be earning more if you didn't have all those responsibilities at home that cause you to rush out the door at 5 o'clock only to rush home and begin your other job? What you are describing is totally unfair and inequitable. Separate accounts are another issue. Since you both work you should both be contributing to household expenses BUT that doesn't mean equally contributing. Since you both work he should be funding a cleaning lady also. You need to put your foot down. Take away some of those things he is so accustomed to having - meals on the table, clean sheets and clothes, clean toilets etc. - maybe he'll appreciate what you do.

Answer 8

Having a nice home & clothes isn't what marriage is about... It is about two people loving each other and sharing everything... Looks there isn't much sharing going on. Do you even love this person.

I personally don't like the seperate bank accounts thing and for all the people I know who have them, they seem to have marriage troubles due to money.

I wish I could offer a remedy... I can only say that I would NOT live my life like that. We all make the decision to be exactly where we are... perhaps if this decision hasn't worked out for you, then a new one should come about !

Good Luck !

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Answer 9

I had one of those. I was raising all six of our kids-three were his from a previous marriage- doing all of the housework, the kids' homework, the yardwork, laundry, cooking, and working up to sixty hours per week. He said it was my job, because I was a woman. I just quit. I made sure the kids ate, but didn't fix enough for him. I washed everyone's laundry, except his. I wouldn't touch a thing he messed with or messed up. It took him a while to figure out what was going on, but he finally caught on. Once he realized how much I actually did around the house, and how hard it was to keep up with everything and work full time, he started pitching in. Give it a try. Make him fend for himself for a while. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Good luck.

Answer 10

are you sure your not talking about my husband because he comes home go right to sleep i cook clean take care of 3 kids my youngest son has speech delay so the only two off days i have i take my son to speech therapy and so i know where you are coming from he work nights i work days so at lease you can do your wifely duties i don't not that many times a week we should put together a club but seriously don't keep your mouth shut speak let it be heard soon they will get the ideal and get off there azzes and move because this is the life we wanted a beautiful home nice cars and all that good stuff so lets work on them it should get better i hope for you and me girl

Answer 11

You are not alone girlfriend. i have someone that has been hand fed by mommy. So he expects me to do it all.
I work 55 hours and he works 32. He will call me up and ask if i did laundry on my only day off. I will get home at 9 pm at night and i hear where's my dinner. Yes i know somewhat of what u are going thru. I am not his mom who is retired and can be supercleaner. I like to relax to!