what should I do?

Question

I have been dating a wonderful man for more than a year and he makes me feel loved and he cares about me a lot. I feel I love him but I also feel our relationship needs more passion. I like that tender love he provides but I need wild passion sometimes. he's a difficult person when it comes to suggestions, I was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on how to tell him what goes in my mind. and if the lack of passion continues, should I just break up?

Answer 1

Step up your direct communication with your man, and discuss the possiblities of taking it to another level, whether thats sexually or sentimentally! either way you have to talk to find out what you want him to do for you. Dont break up just because your relationship lacks passion, its time for you to take a stance and step up the gear and make him aware you want to go to another level. A bit of wild antics can always spice up a relationship especally when hormones are all over the place!!!

Good Luck!! May your wild dreams be fufilled

Answer 2

Lack of passion in a relationship is not unusual.Think about yourself for a while. Are you always in a good mood? Are you jumping up smiling at every morning? No. Maybe your boyfriend has speculations, problems he has diffuculties to solve. The best way to nurish passion is by giving love and communication is the Key word here. No matter what the lack of passion is caused by, can you open up by finding out how he feels inside. That shows him that you are interested in him , and not only think about your own needs for confirmation,. It will show him you are there for him, and this closeness could leed you moore together and create passion. In that way he must tell you what is going on inside of him. Maybe it has nothing to do with you personally. It takes time to build up a strong relationship. It requires sometimes patience but the most important thing to remember is that : In every relationship you will have ,- you have the chance of showing who you really are deep inside in your heart, this doesnt only include your romatic relationships- but all of your relationships with people. Good luck..

Answer 3

I think that if you have been with this guy for over a year there should be a level of openness. I has like him till I met a woman who I fell in love with and with our commitment to each other I began to branch out and try new things and become more passionate in and out of bed, which at one time anything new was taboo. Let him know that you want to have that sort of commitment from him but don't "nag" him about it because it will just push him further away. if you love him enough give him time, Rome wasn't built in a day. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

The answer to this is already in your head!! Let it out, tell him what you want. Make sure your in a private place, alone & get him nicely relaxed [not too much]. Make the best of yourself, build up to it. Ask him how he is and how you can help!, tell him you want to do something mad, wild, different but your not sure[look for hiddens]. If he's still not clicked on, [he may be too shy?] Have a game at hand and ask if he fancies it?[choose wisely, something interactive, contact, suggesting] or dive on him!! if the worst happens, better to know, hey. good luck!

Answer 5

I have just finished a relationship of four years for that very reason, if it's important to you and doesn't look like it will change you need to do this:

Talk to him explain how you feel and what you want..exactly

Don't mention it again and give him a month to act upon what you said

If nothing happens then it isn't gonna work...and deep down...you know it.

You gotta have passion!!!

Answer 6

Things change - you will change he will change and you will never have what you want - if you are not happy then do what makes you happy. However 'the grass is always greener on the other side....." means it isn't always greener grass when you get to the other side.
Thus who knows you are the one in the boat you are in - just sit down and have a chat with him and see what he thinks and then love him or leave him - it will not matter in a hundred years or maybe even next week.

Answer 7

Just be honest but put it nicely has possible. Or rent some erotica films (not porno because some is far fetched unless that's what you want) and make little hints. Boost his ego when he thinks outside the box. Sex is important but it this guy is great as you say he is then you'll have to work with him no matter what!

Answer 8

suggest goin away for a weekend spontaneously to a really secluded hideaway just you and him spark up something adventurous and out of the ordinary between the 2 of you that might get some passion stirred up.....change of scene- change of mood?

Answer 9

Surprise him, be really naughty, wake him up by kisssing his c*ck, go down on him when he is least expecting it, touch him when he's driving the car, talk dirty, use your imagination, not many men can resist the thought of " naughty sex ". Remember that sex is as much a mental thing as a physical thing. Good luck.

Answer 10

Men are hopeless - they need a nudge now and again - and I think its time you should tell him. He won't get offended, infact he might be fascinated by your suggestion and let loose! don't hold in your feelings.. your together for a reason and you should talk - good luck :)