Should I make my husbands fantasy come true? And how should we go about doing it?

Question

My husbands fantasy is to watch another woman with me and he later join in. I 've never been with a woman before! Should I do this? And how would we chose the person? Should it be a friend or aquaintince or a complete stranger? I don't know what to do, I want to make him as happy as he does me! But if he joins in how is that going to make me feel? In a way I think it would be exciting to try something different , but I'm not a lesibian or bi sexual and have no plans on ever being that way! Please give me advice!!

Answer 1

you should not do it....i think it ruins the relationship in many different levels...at least think about how you are going to feel seeing him with another woman and the after math...is he gonna want something more somthing else....

Answer 2

I answered a similar question couple days ago -

fantasies should be left the way they are - as fantasies. when they are realized they lose their essence and in your example oftentimes cause pain.

i understand how much you want to please your husband but if this is in the expense of your feelings (like what if you do not like when he does the other girl?) then dont do it because it is not worth it. If you already have a wonderful sexual relationship - why ruin a good thing?

if you do decide to experiment, i hope you give it enough thought and make sure you include how you will feel about it. Include questions such as "what if he wants to do it again and you did not like it before, will you let him?", "how would you feel if he decides to pursue this on his own if you decline to participate again?", "how do you feel about seeing him do someone else?","what if he decides he enjoyed that someone better than you?","if you know the person, how does this affect your relationship?" most importantly HOW WILL YOU DETERMINE THAT THIS THIRD PARTY HAS NO COMMUNICABLE DISEASE THAT YOU OR YOUR HUSBAND MAY GET?

I dont mean to yell, i just want to make emphasis on the issue.

Answer 3

If he was just a sex partner, I would say why not try. This man is your husband and I don't think you should do anything like that unless you are the one who really wants it. For something like that to work, both of you have to be extremely open minded, and even so, as soon as you see him touching that woman you might feel betrayed, and this will damage your relationship forever. Most men fantasize about it, in my opinion porn would be a better alternative. Don't ever do something you'll regret just to please your spouse, look at other alternatives that will be pleasant for both.
If you want to know if he's just thinking about himself, ask him if he'll be willing to have a 3some with a man, all attention on you and watch his reaction

Answer 4

I think you should do what you think is right for your relationship. I dont know who to tell you to choose on sex and the city they say choose a complete stranger, but I think if it were me I would choose a friend. Thats a good point be honest with yourself how would it make you feel I have thought about it before and still dont know how I would feel to see someone with my man when I consented to it. I wish you the best of luck with this. I can completly understand where you are coming from some excitment would be nice but are you risking too much???? You have to let all of us know how you decided.

Answer 5

Sure make his fantasy come true. Check on the web for bi sexual web sites and arrange a public meeting someplace,then make up your mind. Tell your husband that you would also like to try a threesome with him and another man. He probably would enjoy that also. He is a lucky guy.

Answer 6

Do not do it, I do not think he has any respect for you. If it was something that you wanted to do, and it was a mutual thing, then I would say if that is what you want go for it. But to do something as disrespectful,and out of the norm, I would say he just wants to have another woman, It does not look like your marriage is solid. He needs to be glade he has a good woman, and be satisfied with what he has, if not let him go!

Answer 7

If you don't feel comfortable with the idea, DON'T DO IT. I've heard from acquaintances who've tried this that all they got from the experience were feelings of jealousy, mistrust, and low self-esteem.

If you want to explain it to him in another way, try this: if the shoe were on the other foot, would he be willing to be "with" another man while you watch? I'm guessing, no! Why is this any different?!

Answer 8

it really is a foul theory and could no longer end nicely. tell him you'll compromise -- he may have his fable threesome consisting of your and your pal (assuming she needs to, it somewhat is somewhat no longer all that likely) and then you will be able to have YOUR fable threesome of him and HIS suitable (male) pal. seems honest, perfect? I mean, what's somewhat anal between acquaintances?? Or, you should only say no. tell him you do not favor to ask anybody else into your bedroom and that you're afraid it is going to complicate concerns - that you adore him too a lot to percentage him with anybody. If he insists, I advise you're making the 0.33 party an finished stranger. including a pal to the bedroom is an fairly very undesirable theory.

Answer 9

My husband used to say he wanted a threesome all the time,(I know it's not the same thing, but close) but when he realized that it bugged me, he said he was kidding and honestly wouldn't really want that, or even know what to do if he had the chance. If he really loved you, he would respect you and not ask you to let him bring another woman into your love life. Don't do it.

Answer 10

Your husband should know that not all fantasies come true. If doing this is going to hinder your relationship with him or makes you uncomfortable do not do it. He should understand, if he doesn't too bad.
You are not a bad wife if you don't do it.