See, I've known this girl for almost 1 year, we like almost the same things and have the same points of views on life issues. She invited me to a party, I called her to tell her that I was going to be 10 mins late, she replied in an aggressive tone how much must she had to wait and told me to call her on my way there, not from home, hang up and I decided not to go. On Monday she looked kinda tired and I polite ask her what was wrong with her, she replied aggressively again that I knew about her party and mumble 2 or 3 more things and walk away, that same day I asked her if we could talk she totally refuse. If it was because of not attending her party, once she "forgot" that we settled up a date to go out and I didn't tell her anything, I was a bit upset but I wasn't such a drama Queen. She has done nothing 2 explain that behaviour, no calls, no MSM, today she sing in Messenger and didn't even say hello. I'm a bit upset because I still don't know what did I did to her that was so wrong?
2006-09-28 12:24:21 · 13 answers · asked by Lil' Gay Monster 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Will it be worth it to try to work things out or should we go our separate ways? Do you think this friendship mean something to her?
2006-09-28 12:26:07 · update #1
She knows I'm gay and has a boyfriends, besides I didn't stood her up, I let her know I wasn't going because the way she replied.
2006-09-28 12:32:41 · update #2
It doesn't seem to me that you did anything wrong. Sounds like she has something else going on and doesn't want to talk about it so she's pushing you away. Give her time then try to talk with her again in a few days. Good luck.
2006-09-28 12:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From what you said about the identify of outlook it seems this eleventh hours excusing by you must have really offended her Perhaps she had some big plans for this party. May be she desired to present you before her friends.Your excuse of being late itself was inexcusable.There are some occasions where there is no question why there is but to attend and comply.You further action of keeping away from the party altogether was really culpable homicide.What if she had been rather pereemptory in her response .Can one not have that much claim over a friend? Her further coldness is an extension of all the frustration she must have felt. And now your wonderful thought of calling it a day tops it all. It is obvious that you really did not care for her at all which is OK. It is your choice but then you must not have made such a drama of having common outlook etc. Now if you really serious about the relationship you will have to pursue it diligently. You have tobe prepaed to have some rebuffs but hover around her all the same. May be after some time the thaw would set in.If you warm up again remember that your friend is a moody girl and you would have to summon all the tact you have or may not have to preserve the relaionship. It is worth it.
2006-09-28 12:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should try to apologize for not attending her party but also say that you are a little upset that she wouldn't talk to you. Just be really nice about it. Just apologize first and she will probably apologize too. I know that you're saying that you didn't do anything wrong but if you really like this girl then you have to apologize and DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL LIKE IT WAS ALL HER FAULT! If you do do that she will end it with you, I guaranty it!
2006-09-28 12:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by bluechicken818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't beg her to tell you so whatever it was that upset her so much, just step aside and she'll come around when she gets over it if she gets over it. You tried to talk to her and she refused so at this point just lay back and don't let it bother you so much because she seems to be the one with the issue.
2006-09-28 12:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends are harder to find than mates so I would give this one more shot. at least give her the opportunity to let you know what upset her. explain your feelings and let her know that it breaks your heart to lose the friendship but her actions are pushing you away. if she still acts the same way then simply move on. you may not necessarily find one like her but there will be someone there - who knows - maybe even better.
Good luck.
2006-09-28 12:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is up to you if you want to keep her as a friend. she is probably upset because you didnt keep your word. it sounds like there are more issues than just that though. it also sounds like a double-standard friendship...you know when they get mad when you do something that they have done to you so many times. bring it to her attention and let her know if you two are going to remain friends, there has to be a level of respect and understanding, otherwise, you dont need the negativity in your circle.....feel me.
2006-09-28 12:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by goldie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you call and tell her you will be late then when she is upset you're running late you just flake totally. Did you call and tell her you weren't coming at all? Your story is very hard to understand. She is upset that you flaked and didn't call. Leave her alone and when she cools off she will call you.
2006-09-28 12:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stood her up....you are not so dense to know that isn't very nice. You can sing all the excuses you want, but you stood her up. Now pay the price
2006-09-28 12:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her some time, but if she's not a real friend then you won't miss her anyway. You'll find a better friend!
2006-09-28 12:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Vesdog! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of pressing her for answers she seems so unwilling to give, leave her for a while till she comes to you.
2006-09-28 12:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋