I love my parnter very much we have been together 10 years and have 3 kids, but a few weeks ago I got talking to this guy when me and my partner where going through a rough patch but i have starting getting feelings for this person what should I do??
2006-09-28 12:22:48 · 29 answers · asked by claire 'n' kidz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to decide if this person is worth jeopardizing what you have with your partner and the damage it might do to your kids. Can you be happy with your partner, live your life never having acted on these new feelings? If the answer is yes then you know what you have to do you have to push your feelings for this other person aside. Everytime the new person enters your mind, you think of something else. Remember all things you love about your partner. Think about all ways your life would be different if you and your partner weren't raising your kids together. Think about your partner and look on his or her face if he or she were to find out. Rough patches are natural, all relationships have rough patches and it's easy to develop feelings for other people, nobody's perfect. But do you really want to be a person that would cheat or leave their stable relationship of 10 years to explore something that may just be flash in the pan? Do you even know if these feelings are mutual? If you don't plan on acting on them it's better to not to know. Don't beat yourself up just think hard before you make any moves because the consequences could be devastating.
2006-09-28 12:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by NutterButter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you can love more than one person but like someone said earlier you cant be in love with them. If you met them on-line the person may not be true wait until you meet them in person (if this is what your going to do) you may not love this person you may love the idea or his personality every relationship has rough patches trust me i am going through the exact same thing. But I know I am not in love with the other guy just have very strong feelings. Take a step back and rethink about your feelings 10 years is a long time in a relationship don't jeopardise what you have. Good luck remember the grass is not always greener!!!
2006-09-28 17:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love two or more people at once but it is not always advisable to act on the feelings. Be very cautious as the fall out could be far more painful for you and your kids than the rough patch you have just been through.
2006-09-28 12:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by SLH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you have been with your partner for 10 years, have three children together and you think that you fell in love with someone you have only known for a couple weeks. How could you really be in love with this other person, you don't hardly know him. Is it really worth 10 yrs. with someone for someone you don't know. I wouldn't think so. I really don't think that you can be in love with 2 people at the same time. If you were in love with the first why would you be talking to the second?
2006-09-28 13:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sister it's not love, it's an illusion of what you want to feel from your partner. It feels really great, but don't bite the apple Eve!!! Be strong. Love is what you have with your partner. You may not be in-love, but that's ok we fall in and out of love all the time. It's life. That's why we have so many affairs and lies. Stay true to you. NEVER degrade yourself and sleep with 2 at once!! You will suffer spititually.
2006-09-28 13:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fell for this person because you was missing that love from your husband at time and he told you every thing you might of needed to hear and now you think you like him or "love" him it just your mind try to get over it and think is it worth your marriage and i don't believe it is me myself know what you are going trough i been with my husband 4 11yrs 3 kids so stay with your husband and work things out it will be the best thing for you but also if you feel that its just not there anymore between you and him then maybe you should move on but don't rush into nothing to soon
2006-09-28 12:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stop talking to the other man and cut him out of your life COMPLETELY before you do something stupid. Then get yourself and your husband to counselling and sort out your problems. I wish I'd done that before my husband felt compelled to have his fling......we also married 10 years, 2 kids, so I know a bit about this. It's easier to sort your marriage out when there's not a 3rd person involved, please listen to this and just drop the other guy. It may be hard but the consequences will be much much harder
2006-09-28 23:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....Love is when you are commited to that boy and you want to be with him for you whole life...and i see that 10 or more years that person has been with you......and i think you should stay with you partner and just be friends with the other male...becuase 3 kids and you've been with him for 10 years i think you are devoted to him so dont leave...yes you will have rough times...But Just Deal with it untill it gets to out of control....See when it gets too out of control...thats when you leave.....but for 10 years i thinl you guys haven't had that so far...so Be with this man.....
2006-09-28 12:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lil D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a little bored with your partner at the moment. It will pass. Just think what would happen if you did anything with this person. You would lose such a lot. Don't go there. Its not worth it.
2006-09-28 12:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by linda b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be in love with two people at the same time. But you don't have to act on your feelings. Ignore them, they'll go away eventually and you'll still have your family.
2006-09-28 12:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋