Hey, Well let me start off no negitve comments on me. I made a mistake we all do. Anyways... Im pregnant and im 15, Im not a whore. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2 years next week. I told my parents that im pregnant but I don't know how to tell him I want to keep?.. We both have jobs ( me and my boyfriend) Car, Insurance, Basically anything we could ever want or need. I don't know how to tell my dad this becuase he really wants me to give it up for adoption and he hates my boyfriend. On the other hand my boyfriends mom wants me to keep it really bad.. So my boyfriend and I are very confused. Well tell me what I should say and do.. Becuase I cant give my baby girl up.. I love her to much...
2006-09-28 11:51:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well honey...I am gonna give you props for handling yourself in such a mature manor...about having a job and being smart enough to tell your parents...I completly understand you not wanting to give your baby up for an adoption or abort it...Just straight up tell your dad ....I love you to death and I respect you in most things however, this is my daughter and your grandchild...and I am not giving it up for adoption and tell him ya know you dont have to pay for anything I just need your love and support...then go get yourself on pregnancy medicaid so you, your bf and nobody else has to pay for doc. visits, delievery anything..you can get on medicaid at a human resources office...very easy to find in phone book...contact me if you want some more help...ashleereagan06@yahoo.com
2006-09-28 11:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them all. Sit everyone down together both families and explain to them you feelings. Let them know that you made a mistake and that you are willing to take responsibility for it and would love to have their support not financially but family support. Just let them know that school is the first and you both really want to finish and get better jobs to better support your family. You basically just have to lay it out and don't' get mad about any of their response tell them that you really appreciate it and now that they all care and want the best for you both, but that this is something that you want to do and if you show that you are responsible enough to handle the situation then they will come around in time, and usually once the grandparent to be sees the baby for the first time all feeling changed. I am not saying that this is the best at your age but it's all on you and you are going to have to remember that it's going to be a lot of hard work and alot of Patience. You both need to have your heads on straight and no more thinking about your fun times but think more of the well being of your child.
2006-09-28 18:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear, First of all I would like to congratulate you and your boyfriend. As you yourself agreed that you have mad a mistake no point in telling something to which is already happened.
Well to my thinking I would suggest you is to convince your parents and the baby is a God gift you should go with that. As you are still 15, you may not be well known about the future life( I mean experience). Your parents should play an active role and you should convince them especially your dad. Don't worry tell them truth and express yourself that how much you love your parents and your boyfriend. Its all depend on how you tackle the issue.....
All the best and Happy family life......
2006-09-28 19:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by New 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well you can sit down with your dad and tell him that you really want your daughter, give him an example of him being the one that gives up a daughter, she's your blood and his too, and even though he doesn't like your bf, i think he's gonna want to know and love his granddaughter, just tell him that you want to be a mom, that you love your daughter already and you cant imagine giving her up. Good Luck and I hope you, your bf, and your daughter are very happy!
WOW I read all of your questions and I can honestly tell you that you are sooo strong and a beautiful girl, I am soo proud of you and whta you have accomplished, you are an awesome person and I can tell it is soo hard going through every thing, and you still stick to it I hope you have a wonderful delivery and everything goes fine, and as for your bf I hope things got better, and dont take cr*p from him you know you are a smart girl that can have anyone she wants.. I would definetly like to keep in touch with you just to see how you and your baby are doing!!! Much love and respect!
2006-09-28 18:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell him flat out and put your foot down if you're set on keeping it, there's no easy way around it. Perhaps you could try having all the parents get together and talk about it, since you have your bf's mother on your side?
You will be needing help from your parents with this, but as long as your bf and his parents want to keep it your father can't make you give it up. Really he can't make you anyway, but there's no reason to give it up if a family member wants her.
Good luck!
2006-09-28 18:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what to do in this situation - you have to think about what is best for the future of your baby. If you're really ready to tackle bringing up another person (with the help of your family) then you need to talk to your boyfriend, his family, and your family. You both are very young and will need their help so include them in all this. Obviously it's confusing and overwheleming for all involved but you all have to work through that. When we really love someone sometimes we have to make tough decisions for their best interests. Whatever you all decided to do, good luck.
2006-09-28 19:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Starting a Journey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its your parents but think about it your some ones parent now too. Do whats best for your child. If you feel that the best thing for her is keeping her then thats what you do and you raise your child to love her grandparents even though they didnt want her. Just dont tell her that part! Good Luck Girl, I hope you make the right decision!!!!!
2006-09-28 22:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to, but know the realities. chance are you and your boyfriend are not gong to stay together in the long run. are you prepared to raise a child with someone you are not with. second, you have all the things you could ever need now, but i'm sure that you aren't the ones that paid for them. life is hard with a child. i had my first one at 28 and there are still things that i wish i would have done before having kids. hanging out with your friends at the mall is impossible if you have to find a sitter.
2006-09-28 18:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how old you think you are mature wise ,and however strong you relationship is , trust me there is no bigger shock than having a baby , what ever you both decide you will have to sit your parents down and explain to them that you dont want them to interfer in your relationship and that they must let you make your own mistakes as your parents did once.and support you .
but the only thing is no matter what you cannot fail your child
good luck you are in for hard work
2006-09-28 19:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by applesjackk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart says you don't want to be one of those people regretting your life when your older. sit down and talk with your dad tell him how you feel. sit and listen to his concerns. if all else fails spend some time at your bfs house. if that still doesn't work and your confused write down your dads cons to having a baby young and then talk to your bfs mom and see the pros add your own pros and cons to the list it should help by seeing everything on paper.
2006-09-28 18:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by madisonlilyusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋