Im a 15 year old girl. My guy friend likes to say comments about my chest to my face. I'm a 36 D and he always makes comments about it. He said to one of our friends God gave her one of the nicest racks. I have politely asked him before to stop but he doesn't. Its not just him its other guys too. I don't wear tight tops really or anything low cut anymore. Im sick of hiding myself so people wont make comments. How do I make him shut up. Thanks in advance
2006-09-28 11:43:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He is not my boyfriend or a really close friend
2006-09-28 11:48:54 · update #1
If he continues to make comments like this, tell your parents, tell your school (if it happens during school hours and on school property), and have either of those tell his parents.
What he is doing is sexually harrassing you. If you want it to stop, and just telling him to stop isn't working, you need to talk to some adults about it. If he is doing it on school time or premises, there will be rules against this sort of thing and the administration should take action. If it is happening away from the school, and it is bothering you enough, you could get a restraining order to make him stop. Even the threat of a restraining order may work (I had a stalker and the threat of a restraining order was enough to keep him at a distance). Your parents will be able to help you obtain a restraining order if that is the way you want to go.
What he's doing is wrong. You should not have to hide yourself just so you can have a conversation without someone making crude comments to you. You are doing nothing wrong. He, however, is. Talk to your parents first, or to another adult that you trust. What is going on should be stopped... and good for you for having enough self-respect to want it to stop.
2006-09-28 11:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay the guys that makes those comments aren't your friends at all. as a young girl with that size breast immature boys will comment but don't be stuck trying to hide something that you aren't able to hide. you have a beautiful body i'm not telling you to show your stuff off cuz you dont have to. you stay a lady. people are always going to talk its what you respond to that makes the conversation worth listing to. honey i'm 17 and i have the same problem but i dont listen to what those boys have to say because my boyfriend loves me for me not my breast. besides my boyfriend will do some damage so all the other boys can do is look and drowl. oh if you have brothers or older cousins let them know and i'm sure you won' have another ignorant comment come your way.
2006-09-28 18:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Dr.fanny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok..if you have tried being nice then your gona have to break out the *********. in you lol...stand up for yourself...if he or any other guy says something smart about your chest and it is one of the guys you have already nicely asked to stop...then turn around and say....god may have blessed me with a nice rack but obviously your lacking in some areas...(referring to his penis lol) and walk off. Just think on your toes..you might make someone angry for a moment or too but atleast they will stop cracking jokes overy your boobs..if you have a friend that is more outspoken than you are tell them...(lol when we( me and my friends) were your age I had two friends that were early bloomers and had bigger chests than we did and I was the friend they came to to take care of a few boys) lol when I got done talking mess to those guys they never so much as looked at those girls chest areas again. Lol so either think on your toes and give a snappy come back or go find a friend that will set them straight for you. Good luck.
2006-09-28 18:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you asked him to stop and he hasn't then he obviously doesn't care about your feelings. Dump him asap. You shouldn't have to put up with someone like that. As for other people's comments, just be happy the way you are. You're probably a smart, lovely young girl and anyone who only sees your boobs instead of seeing you isn't someone you want to be friends with anyway.
2006-09-28 18:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this guy has no regard for your feelings. He knows his comments bother you, yet he continues. He is not being fair to you. This is not the behavior of a friend. You should find some REAL friends to hang out with, and stay away from him.
2006-09-28 18:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Chanda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy gets a high at the shock value of his comment!! He probably "enjoys" your reaction. He probably also has sex problems or finds gratifications with such comments. Let him know that he has tired you with his comments and that you will take action with the proper authority for sexual harassment--and do it. Put a stop this trash before it gets worse.
2006-09-28 22:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by KonSengWon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go around proud soon enough they will run out of things to say and will shut up!! i have the same problem you do and thats what I did finally they had said what they felt needed to be!! I wasn't worried about anymore
2006-09-28 19:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by kitti_nikki2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and see if he stops, or go along with it like: ya i know i have nice racks. im like that all the time when my friends make comments about thins like that. and if he doesnt stop, then i highly dont recomend you do this but, just maybe tell a teacher!
2006-09-28 19:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends used to have the exact same problem. She had one friend(guy) that would always do that to her. One day when I was with her, he came up and started talking about her. She got so pissed that she hit him as hard as she could in the face and busted his nose. He never said anything else again.
2006-09-28 20:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Yoshi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be jerks... the hormones just excelerate it in high school. Don't hang around them anymore is the best advice I can give you. He's only saying these things because him and his friends are interested in you/your friends (even if only for busty reasons). It's low and shallow... unfortunately that isn't rare for teenage boys.
2006-09-28 19:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Amy Rie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋