MMkay, so my best friend has been wanting to sit w/ other people at luch, and break. (break is 15 minutes after the second period that we get to eat, and talk.) Anyway, she's has done this for about four days. IThe first day I didnt say anything but after the first day, it hurt my feelings, i mean, she's supposed to be my best friend. She got the picture i was mad and asked what was wrong and i told her. She said sorry. Then it kept on happening and every time i get mad, and every time she says she is sorry. it really hurts my feelings, b/c it seems like when she's in front of people she doesnt talk to me, and when we are just at p.e. or something she does. Plus she is becoming really good friends with a girl i cannot stand. But she still says i am her best friend. I asked a couple of my other so called friends and they all said i have a right to be mad, i dont wanna lose her as a friend, and it just so happens that i'm in the reject group and the other girls are popular, what shoulddo
2006-09-28 11:42:18 · 11 answers · asked by a 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
be serious and give good answers, please, i really need help, it's not that easy to make new friends at a private school.
2006-09-28 11:49:05 · update #1
Once again i go to private school, there are only 9 girls in my class,.
2006-09-28 12:01:58 · update #2
you sound young,,,,the friends you have now most likely won't be there 2yrs from now. when you are older friends take on a whole different meaning than what it means to you now. you asked what should you do,,,,don't do anything,,,,,,,if she's the best friend as she tells you ..then she'll be a best friend TO you but doesn't always have to be with you or sit with you ..friends need other friends as well. don't crowd her..it'll seem like she 's being pushed into being friends with you and that will push her away.in the meantime ,you'll meet new friends too but the two of you can still be friends just expand your group to add more.if you only have one or two..it puts alot of pressure on that one or two.....
2006-09-28 11:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by ggmsixer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets begin by differentiate friends and acquaintances. the only friends you have are Mother and Father all others are acquaintances. Like one of your other replies, said," acquaintance come and leave." You can't control this other person, so don't even go there. You are coming across as possessive and selfish. Mature a little and true and honest others will enter your circle of acquaintances.
2006-09-28 12:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you tell her how much it bugs you and she doesnt do anything about it then i hate to say it but she might not be a true friend. i know what you are going through, im going through it right now. i think the best thing to do is to just tell her that it REALLY bugs you and that you would really like it if she sat and talked to you or took you with her during your lunch and break. if it doesnt work then she isnt a true friend
2006-09-28 11:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by sarah m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wierd. I am havin the same problem. my friend is ignorin me for a grl who backstabed me and i cant stand it. i dont know what to tell her or ask her because she will get mad at me. i want to tell her that she is ignorin me and that she hangs out with this grl instead of me, doin things with her that she wouldnt do wit me like hug me when i hav been gone 4 a long time, or stuff like that. it is little stuff but it matters to me . all i can say is that u should talk to her and say what is on ur mind. if she doesnt listen, then she isnt really ur friend. it is hard for me because this is middle school.
2006-09-28 12:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do nothing,don't even mention it to her again,it sounds like she is trying to make new friends and putting you on the wayside for someone to talk to when theres nobody else around.get it out of your head that your in the reject group ,you have been committing yourself to just her and nobody else.get out there and make new friends.theres nothing wrong with you.just circulate yourself more with other people.you can't revolve your whole world around one person.everything will be fine.she's not your best friend if she acts the way she does.good luck and keep your chin up and smile. pete
2006-09-28 11:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by THE SHADOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as tho your friend is trying to do an easy slip out of your friendship.
Don't be surprised when the day comes that she totally abandones you.
This girl did that to me. Always wondered about the other girls,then she started hanging with them. Eventually, I was totally excluded.
Sorry that this is happening to you.
2006-09-28 11:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, she has a different definition for best friend. your is true and faithful. hers is just a crab shoot. you can still be friend with her, but not a close one. since she only acts close to you when no one is around. or when she needs to have a friend to talk to. baby girl, don't try to make it better, she'll never change. that's just because who she is. be @ places and the people that you're comfortable with.
2006-09-28 12:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reject group, well u need to stand up for urself. and build CONFIDENCE and HOTNESS. dont let anybody place u in the reject group, the hell w. it. who knows u might be the hottie next door. CONFIDENCE and just be cool to ur friend talk to her and just play along ifthats what she rlly wants.
2006-09-28 11:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book " Safe People" by Cloud & Townsend
You friend is NOT a safe person.
2006-09-28 11:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by braveskypilot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, take it easy. Don't get overly emotional about it. Let it go. Life changes. You don't need to be popular to survive, do you? Don't worry, everything will work itself out. Good luck with it all!
2006-09-28 11:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Read n' Write 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋