I mean, the only one who had the same kind of attractions you did.
For me, as a bi woman, I grew up shortly before the Internet became a household name. There were no books in my school, and certainly no out bi people. My guidance counselor told me I'd grow out of it. But when I was 14, I was looking up another word that began with "b" in the dictionary. And I saw "bisexual".
I realized that if a word had to be invented for it, that meant there were others like me. There were others before me, others now, and would be others afterward. I didn't know how I felt about it, but at least I felt less like a freak, and that was a start.
How about y'all?
2006-09-28 11:35:18 · 10 answers · asked by GreenEyedLilo 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks, Nunya, but I'm 32. :-)
2006-09-28 11:56:12 · update #1
Touche, Chris. :-P
I use "gay" inclusively.
2006-09-28 14:25:28 · update #2
It kind of happened the same way for me. But I think I was a bit younger.
It completely spooked the hell outta me, though. I thought someone must have read my mind and put it in the dictionary just to freak me out, which it did!
Even though I knew I was being foolish and childish, I still couldn't help feeling very out of place about my sexuality.
I didn't know anyone who was gay/lesbian or bi growing up either. So, I was never comfortable with my sexuality until much, much later, as an adult.
Even then, I still thought that if I married a man and had kids I would somehow be magically "cured."
Thankfully, I learned that wasn't going to happen and learned to accept myself for who I am.
I've been a much happier person for it!!
2006-09-28 11:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh god I thought i was the only one..and all I had were some old medical texts that would barely mention the word homosexuality because it was such a sickening disease...I was very young and naive until I was about 24 and all of a sudden I found out that I wasn't alone in the world...that there was a whole other world out there where I was accepted...I have never looked back..When I first realized that I was gay I couldn't accept it...I even did the trial suicide route..that's why I try to help young gay people now understand who they are and that they are valid and valuable to the world.
2006-09-28 20:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl was obviously flirting with me I think I was 14 or 15. She was 2 yrs old than me. Instead of completely freaking out I stayed and talked to her. It was like a "well I'm not a lesbian but we can still be friends" kinda thing. Pretty soon I figure out it was more of a "I can relate to this girl and shes gorgeous kinda thing" it was the 1st really strong attraction I ever had with another person. She ended up moving like a month later. If ever see her again I'm sure my heart would skip a beat in a 1st crush kinda way.
So it turns out I'm a bisexual if you must label me :)
2006-09-28 19:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I figured it out in highschool. It was fashionable at my highschool to be "bisexual" and eventually I figured out what it meant and that I felt that way ("for real" and not to be trendy). I never felt the need to bring it up as a "problem" because honestly I never thought of it as a problem. Somehow I always felt comfortable with it.
2006-09-28 18:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At about 28 years old, married, 2 kids....found out when I met a guy who made a pass at me. It was so strong, I ended up having to leave my wife, but kept my kids with me, he and I made it 16 years ... a pretty good track record. My Ex and I remained very close friends.
2006-09-28 18:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I knew there were gays and lesbians and bi's LOONNNNNG before I came out to myself or anyone else.
But it was listening to Indigo Girls albums, and then carefully re-reading Emily Saliers' lyrics, that convinced me I wasn't the only Queer Christian out there. Go Emily!
2006-09-29 03:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out when I was 18 and my best friend took me to a gay night club. I was stunned. I had no idea there were... not only others like me... but MANY others. What a joyous day.
2006-09-28 20:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 when "I'm gay" hit me and knew I wasn't alone. That other kid was more than obvious gay and feminine.
By the way I'm not feminine just gay.
2006-09-28 18:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by The Greek Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found out in high school. This is surely nothing new. Be proud of who you are and think for yourself, don't let anyone break your stride!
2006-09-28 18:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Gail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*cough* what about the lesbians??!
i was about 11 when my parents were talking to a gay guy in my town, it was like WOW!
2006-09-28 20:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋