Me and my husband separated...he then moved another woman into the home and fell in love. All the while lying to me as if he wasn't cheating. He continues to come see me everyday though. Recently I inquired as to why we don't just get back together, his reply was; 'wait until this "plays" out..what???? Should I. I do love him and we've been together for five yrs by the way. I am at a total lost for words or answers. But I'm tired of bieng alone. on e more detail we havent shared a bed in months. Should i wait or sail off???????
2006-09-28 11:29:04 · 20 answers · asked by curiousgeorge??? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave him alone. I never tell a person to do that but he is just the worse. I know you love him and really want your marriage to work, leave him alone, wait til he leave her and grow up. He will be back. Then start over with him. But for now.....let God work on him for you!! enjoy life.
2006-09-28 13:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part is in the beginning. You're hoping for a life that will not come back to you. Time will ease your pain, if you can make the first move out. If you can get counseling or can talk to someone reliable, do that until you start to feel better and move on. Besides, do you want some disease? It's always a possibility. Why ruin yourself and not be good for anyone who will eventually come along.
2006-09-28 19:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by watergirl54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have it both ways, sail off and make all the physical Doc stuff, between you and the text guy and have the emptiness go away and he will be back, those kind of affairs usual are so bad that their releasing the starving out of their craving desires on each other and the passion of it is usually very violent and can't balance it Leeds to confrontations and blows up, so have a nice life.
2006-09-28 18:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sail off. he has sailed off and pulling you right along because you let him. He can tell her to move or he can move in with you till she moves out there is no reason for him not if he want to be with you. he can't have his cake and ice cream too. or get you a man and maybe he'll come around to some sense but do you want to play with him are be a woman about yorself.
2006-09-28 18:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by janeelled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would set sail immediately. Don't even pack an overnight bag!! This guy isn't worth your time. You really should focus on taking care of yourself and someday meeting someone who is worthy enough to have someone like you. You don't want to become his "plan B" if things don't work out with this other gal. Don't lower your expectations and take this. Never should you be someones last choice. Good luck!
2006-09-28 18:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sail off.... or somthing like that.... its time for you to sail your ship to another slip but not completly away.. you are the one on the begging end which impowers him to know ends... he has you wanting him and although he may want you back you are making it so easy to stay and have his cake and eat it to. if you want him back then you have to be chased instead of chasing. if you move on but be available when he is single for dating only then you are his quest. why would the hunter hunt down a deer if he has the deer chained up(and he has you chained by love for him) you ned to move on and be prepared to love someone else even to the point of dating again and if this man really loves youhe will persue you again. dont waste any more of your life in the event he doesnt come back to you... wishing you all the luck in the world on this....
2006-09-28 18:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Wait till this plays out" sounds like he's saying for u to wait for him to get sick of the other woman. It also means to wait for him until he makes up his mind. Now seriously, do u actually want to be at his mercy by waiting on him? I sure wouldn't. He wants his cake and eat it too and wants to keep both of u women around just in case one doesn't work out. Not fair to u.
2006-09-28 18:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sail off he will try to have his cake and eat it too..once a cheat always a cheat and obviously hes not committed to you if he moved in ms right. hes saying that if it doesn't work out or "play out" in his favor with this girl he will come back to you as second choice you deserve much better ..
2006-09-28 18:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bail!He wants to have his cake and eat it too. In case this thing with the other girl doesn't work out he needs you on reserve. Sounds like he can't be alone. Do you want someone like that? Do you want to be second in line?
2006-09-28 18:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thing is you should always fix your marriage. I so don't believe in divorce unless he is beating you up. He cheated and if you guys talked it out and you truly believe that he won't do it again I say go for it and take your time in renewing what you had when you first got married. Goodluck.
2006-09-28 18:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋