I was asking cause i heard a lot of different answers i hoping the answer is no..lol cause i don't like his last name but he want me to put it for the baby's last name he is going to be in the delivery room with me and i know there are going to ask me right after the birth i don't want to say my last name instead of his right in his face what should i do?
2006-09-28 11:21:40 · 51 answers · asked by Lee-Lee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you should tell your boyfriend that once he actually MARRIES you, you will give the baby his last name! Why would you do it now? What if you too never get married or break up? Why aren't you married?
2006-09-28 11:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can. In actuality - even giving your baby your last name is still a choice. You can name your baby anything you want. Even Elvis Presley.
God Bless America.
But, most people use their family's name as it's traditional.
But, because you two aren't married - which in reality says a lot about your boyfriend - I would rather suggest you give the baby both of your names, have it hyphenated with your last name first, then his. It will save a lot of confusion as the baby grows older. You then give your child the choice of deciding on his/her own which family name will be kept. And - if you & your boyfriend do get married, both you and your child can have the choice to use the hyphenated name or drop off your last name.
2006-09-28 12:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can choose which name you want (as others have said), I just wanted to share a story of a friend of mine. She gave her baby her boyfriend's last name, but they broke up later and she is now married to someone else, they have a child together and so three of them have that name, but the first daughter has a different one. The husband wants to adopt her legally and they would like her to have their surname, but the birth father is causing problems(even though she has never lived with him). If my friend had given the baby her last name, it would have been up to her to change it to her husband's name if she wants to.
So, even though I am hoping that you stay together, sometimes it is good to look down the road. I agree also that since it is usually the mother who sees about schools etc., it is useful to have the same name as her child.
Maybe the double-barrelled way is the way to go?
2006-09-28 11:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..you can. That is what I am doing...but if you do not want your baby to have his last name then your gonna have to say so..or you can tell your doc ahead of time so they know what the answer is and no not to ask after delivery...but remember if you all are not married and say you break up and the baby has your last name instead of his....he doesnt have to pay child support...you cant get him for child support unless the baby has his last name or has a paternity test. Good luck
2006-09-28 11:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's according what state you live in. But mostly it's YES you can put his name on the baby birth certificate. You need to seat down and think about your relationship with this man because it sounds to me that you have allot to think about. Especially if you don't want his name on the baby birth certificate. Anyways I hope you make the right decision best for you and your baby. I hope some other girls see this question and understand that there are allot more consciences with having sex than just sex questions. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-28 11:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Betty L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give your child any name you want. The last name does not have to be the same as either of the parents.
They usually don't "need" to know the name untill you fill out the birth certificate, usually on the day you leave. YOUR BABY"S FATHER WILL NEED TO SIGN THIS IN THE HOSPITAL IN FRONT OF A NOTARY!!!
I told my bf that my baby was going to have the same last name as me, when I was about 6months along. He was O.K. with it. Notice he did not say "let's get married" so we can all have the same last name. He did agree that for daycare perposes itis easier for the baby to have the same last name as it's mother.
2006-09-28 11:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, you may provide the toddler any first and final call you pick for. The names of the parents will nonetheless be on the start certificates. as quickly as that's executed, the only 3 strategies the call could be legally replaced would be one million) with the aid of submitting a criminal call-substitute with the courtroom; 2) if the toddler is going with the aid of adoption, and that's had to alter his/her call at that element; 3) interior the even of marriage or divorce, the events in contact can substitute their names. This incorporates the daddy, mom, and youngsters.(particular, adult males and gals the two- you are able to substitute your own call to in spite of you need for no greater suitable value at present!) whilst the toddler is grown and marries or later divorces, this rule lower back applies. there is not any regulation that announces the toddler toddler could acquire the final call of one discern or the different. it's time-honored yet not required, only as that's time-honored to baptise or otherwise take the toddler into the mummy and dad' faith, yet not legally required.
2016-10-01 11:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can...but if your name is differnt and you aren't married you are going to find you may have problems because your baby has a different name than you...My son has my boyfriends last name and I have to carry a special birth certificate that has my name on it. BUT if you get married after...changing your childs name is a bit difficult
2006-09-28 11:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can. Believe it or not, you could even give him a made up last name. You are allowed to name your child WHATEVER you want.
They won't ask you in the delivery room. You will fill out papers after the baby is born and you can put WHATEVER you want.
Hope this helps and Good Luck.
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2006-09-28 11:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by gina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The child's name on the birth certificate becomes a legal document. You must keep this in mind, if the guy is the baby's father, then it should be on the certificate., if it comes to getting support for your child what will you do if he is not named as the father. If you do not put his name , then you must put father unknown, and later it is difficult to prove who the father is.and you will have to pay to get that proof. So do as you wish, but just be careful of what you wish for
2006-09-28 11:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the hospital clerk doesn't come around RIGHT after the baby is born... they usually wait a few hours or even do it the next day (depending on what time your baby is born). You do NOT have to put his last name if you are not married. BUT, keep in mind that having his name down as father will help in collecting child support payments down the road. I think, for the child's sake, you SHOULD put his name as father, but do not have to list his last name as the baby's last name.
2006-09-28 11:31:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋