Me and my fiance' have been together for almost 2 yrs.and we have talked about getting married but he has never popped the question.I want to ask him and i want it to be very special,any one have any ideas??
2006-09-28 11:17:18 · 24 answers · asked by La Princessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are already calling him your fiance' and you are not engaged?
2006-09-28 11:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by ADF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, I just want to say GO FOR IT !!!
Because it is the 2000's
I ask my husband!!! Thats right my husband.
I have been married for 10 years now. And very happy too.
We we're together about 2 years before we started talking about marriage too. And one night, a very romanic night I popped the question to him.
My husband is somewhat old fashion too, but he loves me, no matter what. And he was so happy, that I asked him. I had some fears inside of me to,wondering how is he going to take this. But then I realized that he loves me, and I love him, so I popped the question to him,
Good luck, and you better send me an wedding invite lol lol.
2006-09-28 12:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by mountaingirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you engaged already? If so, what are you going to ask him? If not - why are you calling him a fiancé? I'm confused. Presuming you're not engaged - there's no harm in bringing up the issue of marriage and getting an answer out of him. I don't know if I would do it as a formal proposal; my feeling is that if the guy doesn't ask - then he doesn't really want to marry you. Feel him out first and make sure he's on the same page with you, relationship-wise.
2006-09-28 11:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look sweety,
It is not proper but it's acceptable just go ahead and do your thing and see what happens, don't wait for him to pop the question you both been together all this time it might come suprising but don't act like you are afraid to do it.And if he's not afraid of commitment he'll answer yes 2yrs. if he says no ask what is he afraid of because ya'll already living like married couples mind as well go all the way my husband and I did we argue but we are so happy,and it's a blessing because he came to me and there are not too many good black men out there and I sure got mines and we've been married only 2months and 2weeks.GOODLUCK
2006-09-28 11:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it can hapen, but it is rare. Is your guy old-fashion? If he has tendencies to be old-fashioned then you might want to hold off.
Consider this though, he could be workign to be in a position where he feels comfortable enough to be able to marry you. You know, where he has the career built to a good point, the down payment for a home, some finances set aside for a nice ring. There are things men keep to themselves that they don't want a woman to know. Things that make a man feel like he is fulfilling his manly duties.
2006-09-28 11:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want to propose there is nothing wrong with it but be 100% sure that he feels the same way u do.
I proposed to my partner overlooking a beach cliff face and we had already been talking about marriage so i knew he would say yes.
Use your imagination - for example think of things u both like to do together and use that to capture the moment.
Good Luck!
2006-09-28 11:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proper to who? Our grandparents? Probably not. The today woman? Why the heck not?! If you're okay with being the one asking and you don't have that image of "it has to be the man" then go for it. Marriage is a two way street, why not the engagment as well?! Good luck & be happy :)
2006-09-28 11:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Starting a Journey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to wait for him, it might be another 2 years before he asks you. So I say go for it and pop the question. But maybe there is a reason, he hasn't asked you yet. So I suggest you be very careful.
2006-09-28 11:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him, but you know what? If he really wants you, he will ask and you won't have to do it.
Wouldn't you feel better if you knew he wanted it as much as you? Men who want you, won't let you go without asking first.
My husband asked four times before I said yes. I said no the first three times, because I hadn't fallen in love with him yet. He was persistent.
Your friend will ask when he's ready. If you don't want to wait, then break it off clean.
2006-09-28 11:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are referring to him as your "fiance" and that means you are engaged and planning a wedding and that he did, indeed, "pop the question". But, the rest of your question seems like he is just a boyfriend. Seems like you two don't communicate very well. No, sweetie.....I would not "pop the question" since you may get the answer that you do not want to hear.
2006-09-28 11:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. Who cares about who asks first
2006-09-28 11:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋