My bf has a x with 2 kids who is driving him insane it like she wants to destroy him totally.His father destroyed him self the same way and it is like he too is doing the same thing his father did but he cannot see this right now because he so angry,I guess I too was angry when we met but I have gotten help and I am healing slowly but surely but refuses help ,the problem is I think I am falling for him we have been together for 4yrs and he is constantly doing things to destroy him self and it is mostly bases up on the demands his x throws his way and they never seem to talk just fight with the intention to hurt each other some how I think he is in my life for a reason.But I do not know how to get him to see what I am seeing. He is a leo and very hot headed I am an aquarius,I know I calm him down but I cannot be around him all the time at this period in my life,I see more than he does how do I help him to see more.I want to wake him up,to being more aware as to the decisions he makes.
2006-09-28 10:51:44 · 8 answers · asked by lucky 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
Let him know that you are there for him. What he is doing will not only destroy him, but his chideren, and any family he has left. If you love him stay. If you dont get out now! You can help him several ways. First you can tape or record this behavior, and show it to him. You can also ask him to go to counseling with you. If you go with him this will make it seem not so embarrassing, but also let him go alone. If you want to get really far out there see a psycic that can cast spells. It can be hard to find a legitamate one, but thety are out there. I have practiced with spells and they do work sometimes. They can backfire. I pray you use wisdom with this. You are in a very serious situation. Be careful.
2006-09-28 11:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People come into our life to teach us lessons I think your boyfriend has not learnt his lesson from his ex so therefore the ties are not broken.
So maybe sit down and talk to him see where the relationship broke down and why and try to find the answer.
Some times people just have to learn not to argue and cut the energy off until they can sit down and just talk it out.
If two people are yelling at each other they don't hear what the person is saying because they are thinking about what they are going to yell back.
When they can sit down and just listen it gives the mind time to take in what the problem is.
Sometimes the answers is as simple as not talking to each other at all.
Leo man have a pride and it is hard for them to back down maybe that is his lesson to learn to back down.
I have a Leo man that I am engaged to and I have taught him to negotiate because I am Taurus so stubborn yes he has his pride
Being Stubborn or having a Pride is just the "Ego"
So it is easier for us to compromise and with that we never argue.
And just cut off negative energy just walk away
Do you know what hurts more to stand and argue or walk away ?
When you walk away and the person has no one to argue with it burns then up like fire lol then you win.
So tell your boyfriend if he wants to have the upper hand just don't argue with his ex.
Love & Blessings
Milly
2006-09-28 19:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd back out of the relationship, if I could. He has the potential to hurt things he loves ie:himself, why wouldn't he hurt those around him too? stop family violence before it starts. I'd go the other way and not look back, there are many decent people who won't cause you anguish that have communication skills to deal with thier ex's, if they have them or other problems.If alchohol is involved, leave asap.
2006-09-28 20:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Boliver Bumgut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been through a similar situation, and you won't see any peace till his kids are grown. In my case, his ex used the kids as pawns, making him feel guilty all the time, when it was HER that divorced him when the kids were aged 3 and 1. It was alot of years of Hell, but we managed to make it through.
2006-09-28 17:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to walk away from this drama, he is a grown man who choses to play this game with his ex. You need to find a man you can have a real relationship with as an equal. This guy is not for you.
2006-09-28 21:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be very hard to do, people choose not to see stuff that hurts them they just keep pushing it aside, I guess the best way to show him how much it is bothering him is try not to exploit him for what it is but, try to get him to tell you how much it hurts and try to comfort him
2006-09-28 17:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by DEREK A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man is "broken" and it is not your job to fix him. He isn't going to be mended until he is ready and that may not happen in your life time. If he will go to counseling,alone or with you, great. Otherwise ... save yourself ... let go of a losing relationship.
2006-09-28 18:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with everyone here
2006-10-02 14:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by babykatdream099 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋