Me and my best friend are starting to drift apart and our relationship isn't as good as it used to be.
We used to see eachother all the time but now I get paranoid he's not interested in me.
This is on his part though as I'm the one who does the phoning or texting to arrange things. In saying that though, he never gets in touch with anyone to do anything - people contact him.
But of late he's been making up things which have prevented us from doing things together (things I've later disproved and cause us to go in moods). Even last night he was texting someone and trying to disguise it so I wouldn't see! We barely spoke either.
We used to be able to talk about anything and everything for hours and hours but now things seem to have gone bad, as if I bore him.
I care a lot about him because we can get along so well at times, like brothers but I just wish he would remain mood free.
How should I explain wat I think? I think he's aware but pretends it's nothing! Help!!!
2006-09-28 10:43:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is not on drugs (would never be) and I we are both 19.
I don't know what they hell is wrong. Just last Friday we had the best laugh ever, on Saturday we all went out for a drink (group of us) and his mood swings and I feel rejected. On Sunday he's quiet and seems bored. Monday I speak to him and get one word replies, same on Tuesday. Wednesday we go out and have a little bit of laugh but things turn quiet and someone texts him. He tries to hide the fact that he's texting someone and I just thought what's the deal??? Not spoken today and always hook up on a Friday. I don't know whether I should contact him tomorrow or hold out for a few hours to see if he contacts me. Then maybe later I will say something, I dunno. I don't like making an issue of things but it's doing my head in!!!
2006-09-28 11:17:40 · update #1
You don't say how old you are.
I'm sorry to say this, but the likely answer is, as you say it, you are simply drifiting apart. (He is doing the drifting)
It really hurts when someone we love and are close too moves in a different direction. I am assuming that you are young. When I was about 18, I lost a friend this way. It hurt like hell and I still wonder what I did wrong.
The truth is, you have done nothing wrong, your personalities are just drifting apart.
Talk to him. Ask him outright. You deserve an answer. Try not to make him feel crowded but do try to get an answer.
By the way - dependant on your age, sudden changes of temprement, could suggest a drug usage. You seem to imply that you live with him. If you do, I would imagine that you would know.
Are you sure he doesn't have family/other problems that he is keeping to himself?
Talk to him. And if it seems he has simply moved on - let him.
I'm really sorry - I think losing a friend this way hurts more than losing a lover. But you will get over it and you will find new friends.
Best of luck and all my love. x
2006-09-28 10:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Madam Rosmerta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he could be on drugs which is affecting his behaviour. He could have a new circle of friends. Unfortunately over time people change, even best friends. People you once knew so well sometimes drift off in a different direction, to follow their own path in life. Find your own way, do what makes you happy. Perhaps give him some space, wait for him to contact you and see what happens.. Good friends will always come back to you, even years later when they realise what a good friend you are/were to them.
2006-09-28 18:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by rikerlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter / email in anger, but then don't send it. SIt on it for a few days, which will give you time to think about what the REAL issues are, and then talk to your friend about them in a rational and balanced manner.
2006-09-28 17:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by nigel h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously doesn't want you around anymore...it seems that he is just drifting away from you and this sometimes happens...talk to him maybe you are doing something that is upsetting him and you don't realise..you will both feel much better once you have had a chat.
2006-09-28 17:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he could be on the weed
same thing happened to me years ago
dont worry if you drift apart there are plenty of other people on the planet who can be your friend
2006-09-28 17:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by MaxD148 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes friends just drift apart..... maybe if ye do spend a bit of time away from each other things will just sort themselves out...
2006-09-28 17:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go straight to the point and ask be honest and tell him the truth and how you feeling don't go around the bushes and pretend that every thing is ok.
2006-09-28 17:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by fudge4two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to move on, but doesn't want to come straight out with it because you have been close in the past and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
Give him LOTS of space.
Stop arranging things and texting him.
Concentrate on other friends.
He will either come round or move on.
And you just have to accept it... Sorry.
2006-09-28 17:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are 2 guy friends, right? Then I'd ask him "What bug crawled up your butt?!" I know this sound rediculous, but it may get the conversation started.
2006-09-28 17:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tears, and more tears, weeping and crying, the average female attempt to regain attention, and it does work.
2006-09-28 17:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by peace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋