My bf and i are legally married a week and told our families we were engaged not to disappoint them. And we planned on just having a wedding cermony where both families could come and then being none the wiser. But i just found out at a regular check up that i am almost 2 months pregnant?Walking down the asle pregnant?good idea or bad he wants to plan a wedding for no later that december!Does the catholic church allow pregnant woman to get married pregnant?
2006-09-28 10:43:00 · 9 answers · asked by kelly v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The marriage in vegas was an accident and i am still in my last year of college.We thought we could just take the marriage in vegas as an engagement and then have a ceremony 6 months later.
2006-09-28 10:43:59 · update #1
we kinda want the gifts
2006-09-28 10:45:15 · update #2
do you actually have marriage papers? because it's really the papers that determine if you're married or not, not the ceremony. so technically, you already got married outside of the catholic church, you're just having your ceremony in the church. just tell your family the truth, that you're already married but have not had an official ceremony, so that way there's no taboo behind being pregnant and walking down the aisle.
2006-09-28 10:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly- most churches in general will not marry you if you are pregnant let alone a catholic one!! The fact that you are already married- you may be able to say that you are having a formal ceremony and tell everyone that you have already been married but want everyone to attend this time. If you already know you want to get married and you are really ready....go for it and get married ASAP before you start showing. Family and friends may think that you are getting married because you are pregnant otherwise. Or you could always just come clean and tell them that you got married in Vegas......but you probably wont get the gifts!! I would say get married quick and get the gifts and deal with the rest later!! Also if you got married in Vegas and you have papers saying that you are legally married- I would think that most churches wouldn't want to marry you- seeing how you are already married and that you were married the first time not under the house of God. It is very much a complicated situation. Talk to your priest.....or any priest at that matter!
2006-09-28 10:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Misty K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are already married, the church shouldn't care. If you want to talk to the person performing the ceremony and let him know what is going on it should be fine. Your married. You are making it so complicated. I did what you did, just not in Vegas, it was the court house. We did plan a ceremony for family, and I did get pregnant. So I have been exactly were you are at right now. I was only 18 at the time tho. Talk it over with the church. Your married it's not a "sin". Congrats on all.
Also, you are being selfish. Doing all this for money and gift's is wrong. No matter what.
2006-09-28 10:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accident, my foot! How is a marriage an accident?
Maybe your impregnation was an accident, but your intimacy wasn't. You saw that coming, dear!
I can't speak for the Catholic Church, although i think they do permit it. but it will be rather awkward, don't you think, already married ( legally) and having a wedding looking like watermelon? i mean you'd HAVE to explain it to everyone, wouldn't you???
2006-09-28 10:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone the truth and that you eloped and are happily married! Then plan on having baby showers/wedding gift party at the same time...I did that and it worked out beautifully. Don't lie about anything and you will get wonderful results. Good luck. Kitty
2006-09-28 10:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. So you're pregnant. It's 2006, who doesn't test drive the car before buying now days. If the church doesn't allow it, get married somewhere else. What's done is done. Do what you both think is right.
2006-09-28 10:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by jaynowa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but probably the best solution is to tell everyone instead of having to lie about everything. The truth will probably come out anyways and you guys would feel bad. I feel bad for ya. That is a tough situation.
2006-09-28 10:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are already married, then leave this alone. Ooops, I answered a similar question, so find that answer. Most revealing was your additional comment that you just want the gifts. Aren't we mature????? Make sure you tell everyone that!
2006-09-28 17:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the truth. Lying we not get you anywhere. You can always have your marriage blessed in the church. That shouldn't be a problem.
2006-09-28 11:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋