I adore her more than anyone else.
I am seeking a divorce
I need her attention
It is not about sex.
It is about my life and hers converging.
I have nothing against the husband. He is a nice guy.
HELP!
2006-09-28 10:38:07 · 31 answers · asked by dandybug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really love her just remain her friend and don't bring up your feelings. I know it sounds terrible cruel but, If your love is for real than you will want to see her happy. The only way she can be happy is if she makes decisions without pressure from other people. If you are meant to be it will happen if not you will always have a friend.
2006-09-28 10:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by CiCI 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
damn, your not using your head what so ever. do you remeber when you first met your future ex-wife???? the uephoric feeling?? pretty much the same as what your feeling now and your girlfriend probably felt the same about her husband. in time you and this woman might make it to the alter and be the happiest people and "they'll" be saying its like looking at true love. till one day you wake up and you two are not happy any more then what ???????? this girlfriend has already proven that the promise she made to her husband wasnt worth squat and although you may be a great guy you two will tarnish the excitment of marriage will fade and your left with wondering if another man will make her happy. and this my friend is the cycle of your life till you choose to break the cycle of your life failing in the marriage department. the best thing you can do right now is suggest she seek marriage counseling and for you to realize what your doing is showing this woman the grass is greener on the other side and we all know its never greener. she isnt unhappy with her husband she is unhappy with the fact that its not the glamour shot. if you are succseful in aiding her marriage to fail in any way ( even in the placibo form) you will never have won her heart trully but merely by defualt and no matter how gratifying it may in the present the long term future is another two families destroyed... i hope you think hard and long and do the right thing.... judging by your question your extremely waisting your time and will eventually have to start all over again looking for "another" happy marriage..... good luck
2006-09-28 10:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by joe 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't think you deserve more than that? Someone that is willing to do the right thing by you and for you?
If she is "the one" for you, then let her go... if she comes back (divorced!), then she was yours.
In this situation, she needs to be the one to decide on where the relationship with you needs to go. She needs to figure out whether or not to end the marriage. Keep in mind that there are more than 3 billion women on this planet and you never know where that PERFECT one will show up. Yes, she may be it, but as a single guy, you have an infinite number of other possibilities. I say until she has her relationship figured out, give her some space and look around yourself. It's the right thing to do. Right now you have nothing to lose, and more to gain. Think about it!
2006-09-28 11:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her until she's divorced. It's not right to be messing around in someone elses' marriage. If she really wants to be with you she'll leave her husband. But all that stuff you said about her will more than likely go away very soon after she becomes attianable. You don't love her, you love the idea of her. And the same for her about you. If her husband is such a nice guy do you really want to hurt him like this? If she still loves her husband what is she doing talking to you? She needs to work on her marriage. I think you're getting played. And it is about the sex. It's always about the sex.
2006-09-28 10:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by PasoBrio13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If we had the answer to that then we would all have a couch and an 100 dollar an hour job, but heres my advice. Love is hard to come by if she is happier with you then help her to see that everyday of her life you two spend together but do not force her to leave her husband it only causes drama in the end. Also keep your options open while your looking one way you may miss out on the single girl of your dreams also dont make yourself seem like the victim in the situation make her see that all though she is not yours you cherish every moment you two spend together. She will appreciate that much more then you think. Good luck and remember options open
2006-09-28 10:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by ask me again 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great! So you say you love somebody, I know a man who said the same thing, and ended up coming close to destroying his family, the "loved" woman's family, his friends who looked up and respected him and changed everyone's lives all through his "love" for another man's wife. I don't know if you or anyone else who has posted has ever had to live through a divorce or close to it but, it's not a joking matter or "go, ahead that's great!" sort of deal You're insane if you think that this woman is in love with you, she is using you and will dump you for the next one. Her husband and family (if she has any) will be the losers and so will yours unless you can save yourself before it is too late. Pray to God you may, even if your marriage or togetherness turns out, think not only of yourselves but, of the unhappiness you will be causing everyone else, "He is a nice guy" he deserves better from such people.
2006-09-28 11:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Fun2010 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure her into leaving her husband, walk away for now.
If she leaves her husband to join you, then you can get married and wait for her to leave you for someone else to poach her away.
It may be true that her marriage was a mistake, and it's quite likely she'll feel the same about yours at a later time when she meets another person like you.
2006-09-28 11:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by jezterfezter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire and you may be being USED in addition. She is MARRIED and until she is DIVORCED, you have no business with her! In many cases, the woman Will RETURN to her husband (as will the man to his wife) leaving the other party out in the cold. Wise up, buddy. If she divorces the husband, fine. Otherwise, hands off! She belongs to another. don't care how much you THINK you adore her.
2006-09-28 10:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had to think twice to see if I wrote this. I'm in a very similar situation. Take a deep breath because if this is forever love with you and her you need to take a long, long-term view of this. It sounds like you are BOTH married from your note. If that is the case quite frankly you need to do something about your situation at home independent of what this other woman. If you're that much in love with this person, it is clear you aren't in love with your wife. You need to mop that mess up first before you even start pushing this other woman to do something.
I would hope that your respective spouses could see the big picture that if you two don't love your spouses, it's the better deal to let you both go to be with each other.
2006-09-28 10:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Luis LU 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen friend,
This isn't a situation that is simple as you well know. You cannot go after a married woman. You are looking at a multitude of pain and trials. Walk away. Marriage is sacred, it is the second highest commitment other than that to God. Don't mess with this situation, I urge you.
2006-09-28 11:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋