There are so many people that either joke or are very serious about once you get married, everything changes and it is a big mistake. My boyfriend and I are taking the steps towards marriage, and there's a few people who tell us not to go down that road because things only change for the worst after marriage. I know marriages aren't ever going to be perfect, but are they really that bad??
2006-09-28 10:34:23 · 27 answers · asked by Mrs.H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage can be bad for some couples but some can make it work. If the two of you engage in marriage then I would just stick to being yourself. He wants to marry you right? Then that says he loves the way you are. As long as the both of you treat each other the same as you always have, then you two will be fine. Just make sure that you are getting married for the right reasons. Remember, a marriage takes work. People usually get divorced because they are too stubborn to compromise.
2006-09-28 10:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pinky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are long and short friendships, I don't need to tell you what it is that makes a long friendship last do I. Analyse your own ones. Marriage is the same. Just remember time sifts out who good friends are. Different circumstances reveal what sort of person they really are, these things take time....don't be impatient.
Remember if they don't treat other people good or with respect or compassionately etc. quite possibly when they are used to you, you may be on the receiving end also. Everyone can be caring for a short time but knowone can keep it up full time over an extended period unless it truly is whats in their heart. True friendships grow in love, respect and depth over the years as do marriages that are based on true love for that person and who they are...not just on how well the romance is.
2006-09-28 18:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, marriages arent really that bad. Its the people that ruin a marriage, not a marriage that ruin the people. You have to realize that this is a big commitment and you will definately change once you get accustomed to each other. you have to work hard to make it work by honesty, communication, and forgiveness. If you worry too much about what your friends say about marriage, then you probably arent ready to go there yet, are you? Think long and hard, but go with what your head and heart agree on.
2006-09-28 17:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because they change doesnt mean its all for the worst. You have to realize that its not always gonna be new. You are both gonna get comfortable and in a routine. Thats the way life is. So long as you understand it isnt always gonna be like you are dating, you have conquered half the battle. You also know that things will not always be easy. Hitting hard financial times or sickness is a major strain. No marriage gets through without problems. Accept all this and you will be ok.
2006-09-28 17:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Marriage can ruin a relationship it means you never really had a relationship. In todays society everyone is so affraid to commit. They always seem to need that Plan B, that Escape hatch.
The Sanctity of Marriage means that two people have reached the maturity to realize that their Partner is worth a lifetime commitment.
Do people get it wrong? of course they do....That doesn't make Marriage wrong.
2006-09-28 18:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not, I have been married for two years now and love it.
Before getting all nervous about it think about the relationships the people that tell you marriage is bad are in...generally those are the ones that are having trouble.
If you and your boyfriend love each other and are going down the road I say BE HAPPY! and Congratulations!
Hope you have a great life (married life) together!
2006-09-28 17:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by White 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people that think marriage makes things worse in a relationship have maybe picked the wrong person to begin with. You should make certain that you like to hang out with your intended more than most anyone else. You have to be friends at the core.
It gets better and better.
2006-09-28 17:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any issues that exist prior to marriage will be magnified by the marriage. Don't expect them to go away. For those that got married while trying to overlook the issues...yes, they probably had a worse relationship. Proper attention prior to the marriage probably means that the issues will be in check after the marriage.
2006-09-28 17:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all marriages go sour! Be committed to the relationship through sunshine and storms and you will do okay. Don't get married expecting to change him and you'll do okay! Accept him for who he is and he should cherish you every day and you will do okay. I have been married for such a long time now (more than 10 years) and we still love each other and are best friends.
2006-09-28 17:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by lgw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No,marriages are'nt bad,it's the people in them that make them good or bad. It takes both people working hard to keep the lines of communication open and respecting one another's feelings. don't let people like that influence you. My parents have been married for 51 years now. Sure there's going to be rough times,but if you truly love one another you can get through it together. Just be strong and support each other. Have faith and best wishes to you and your fiancee'.
2006-09-28 17:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by Diana W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋